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I am a very happy and single 35 year old woman looking to have her first baby. I have never had a preg scare or close call and really chose to wait until I was working full time and established as living on my own. However, it feels like that's all biting me in the arse now. I can't afford fertility treatments or adoption cost on my own and refuse to hook up with someone I won't like a few month's from now just so we can afford to have a child.
My brother has 3 boys which oddly enough were all born on my mum's birthday, a great gift for a grandma that I could never top. (Unless I had a girl) Anyway, my question is I have started to build up some resentment as I watch others around me who are too young and lazy, not educated enough and just plain irresponsible becoming parents. How do you deal? I feel like I am being punished for being to responsible and picky about my choice in men when I was younger. How on Gods great earth is it possible for a 15 year old to have a child and not I?
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Are you sure you couldn't afford it. My insurance covers the meds and the ultrasounds.  I pay for the IUI out of pocket $300.  I'm not sure how much donor sperm is but it may be within reach.  IVF is the real expensive item and you only need that if you are unable to get pg using other methods.  Best of luck to you.  
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I agree that it sucks that 15 year olds get pg and not us, but you can't say that other people are not good parents just because they didn't plan the way you did. I am 29 and have a 9 year old boy and a five year old girl and am trying for one more. We have struggled financially, but I wouldn't change things. I am sure you will be a great parent and have done some wise planning, but parenting is just about being financially secure.
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