How hard can it be?

[ruhapinow]

I'm 23 yrs old and i've been trying to get pregnant for god knows how long..  I recently broke up with a 4-year long boyfriend because of conception issues..we've been trying to get pregnant for 4 long years..we never used any contraceptives or any medication whatsoever..and nothing happened..i now have a new boyfriend, my soon to be husband..and he now wants to get pregnant..im so scared i'll lose him too because of conception issues again..i have not taken any contraceptives in my life, i don't know what's wrong but i can't get pregnant..my job is very stressful, i sleep for only 3 to 4 hours a day..what can i do?can i take fertility pills?pls help anyone..im desperately begging you people to pls, help me..

[30something13]

Yes what the other two ladies said is the best advice! Here are a few things your dr will ask you.
When did your periods start, their duration
How ofteen you have sex, i.e. every day is to often and can diminish sperm count
Do you know when you ovulate, get OPK's but that just detects the LH hormone and does not tell you if you indeed ovulate
Do you drink, smoke, use caffine, get good sleep?
Does your partner use boxers, get hot showers, use hot tubs, all of which can lower sprem count!
talk about your weight and diet.
Family history
You need to take your BBT basal body temperature to see what your cycles are like. Take it forst morning before you do anything, even talk! At the same time each morning! You have to do this with getting at least 4 hours of good sleep. It tells the dr alot! If it stays high or low all the time you may have thyriod issues. If your temp does not go up after the +OPK then you are not ovulating. If your temp does not go up  high enough or stay up after you O then you can have low preogesterone which will not allow a baby to attach. So you need to go to a fertility specialist!!! Not a GYN! Which they can do all the test then send you with everything done to a FS. You need blood work on your hormones and thyriod levels, u/s on your ovaries and they may do a hcg. I would reccomend the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It is a good book! Best of luck!

[SarahKateP]

Hi, I strongly advise like the previous poster you visit your doctor for a chat about it all, it does seem you have been trying for a while. It isn't just as simple as not taking any contraception, you don't mention anything about knowing when you ovulate or when to have sex at the right times etc...so I am not sure how much you know about all this. You actually only have a 12-36 hour window once a month (ovulation), when you can get pregnant. I strongly advise you get yourself some Ovulation Tests and start using these so that you know when you ovulate, when you get a positive ovulation test, this detects the LH surge in your body that happens 12-36 hours BEFORE you ovulate, so you are at your most fertile the day of your positive ovulation test and the 2 days after this, so these 3 days are the most important to have sex, to maximise your chances of getting pregnant. There are lots of things you can do to help things along - staying healthy, no smoking or drinking (for both of you) taking a multi-vitamin which has folic acid in it ever day helps to prepare you body for pregnancy, drinking lots of water and getting adequate excercise. I also advise you take 1000mg of omega 3 fish oils with DHA in it every day - these are wonderful natural things which boost your health and your brain and is great for baby when you get pregnant. Also you can try taking Evening Primrose Oil, from the first day of your cycle until you ovulate - evening primrose oil is proven to improve the cervical mucus and things in general down there, which in-turn will help the sperm get through to your egg. Stress can have a big effect on getting pregnant, I would strongly advise you to get as much sleep as possible, what you describe isn't enough - good ways to unwind and relax at night are having a hot bath with lavender before bed, using relaxtation hypnosis cd's to help you relax and switch off at night, drinking hot milky drinks before bed and trying to go to bed at the same time each night helps too.

The best book I have found, which has everything possible in it to help you maximise your chances of getting pregnant is Zita West's Guide To Getting Pregnant. I've come to regard this book as my bible and it really has absolutely everything in it you could possibly want to know! You can get it very cheap on Ebay or Amaon etc...

I wish you lots of luck and **********baby dust********

SarahKate xx

[mygoode]

Most of the women here have been doing everything they can to get pregnant for years.  So the answer is... it can be very hard.  

I'm not as seasoned as some of the others but it sounds like you need to visit your doctor.  They should refer you to a fertility specialist, which I've never done so I can't offer advice in that arena.  They usually require that you've been trying to conceive for over a year but perhaps they'll take the past into consideration.  You need to start there though.  To the best of my knowledge, there are no OTC fertility pills that have been proven effective and there could be any number of things that are preventing your pregnancy.  If you want to do more on your own, MedHelp has awesome articles on TTC and the ovulation tracker is extremely important.  I'm assuming your dr. will ask how regular your cycles are and if you've been tracking ovulation so it wouldn't hurt to be prepared.  Good luck.