Commiserate with me!! Believe it or not!

[YvetteY]

I got an email at work with a baby announcement and a baby's picture....no big deal I can handle that.  I acutally thought the sender was the grandmother or something as I knew she had an 18 or 19 yr old son!  

Then I had to send an email to this same coworker and I got an out of office reply stating she was on medical leave.  Much to my shock I found out that she's the mother!!!  (My coworker went to work in another building and I usually just deal with her on the phone on email).  

Do you know why this is soooo shocking  -- because she's 48!!!!!!  FORTY -f'ing - EIGHT!!!   So I double checked and with someone else and I found out she'd been trying as she had a few miscarriages over the past years.     Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for her....but she's 48!!!

WTF???!!!

I'm jealous, depressed, and so on!!!  I'm dying to call her and find out what she did.   She had to do something right????  

[kindergal]

I am hanging on to hope----I know a 49 yr. old woman that had triplets---NO MEDS!!!!!!!!  She had taken fert. meds in her 30's and maybe some in her early 40's and gave up hope....  Fast forwards a few years and......SURPRISE!

[40smama]

Hey Yvette - I know what you mean - wtf?!  I'm like you - I'd be shocked if she didn't use donor eggs or as brown gurl said had adopted by this point.  It's funny - when I told a close friend that we were using donor eggs, she came up w/all of these stories of women who somehow miraculously had children in their mid to late 40's w/out any help.  I don't believe her anymore.  Of course there are miracles but gosh that's sooo rare.  

[tina1111]

I hear you Yvette! Goodness! Well, I guess the right way to look at it is "we still have time?" lol  I went to the dr today and really opened up both barrels on him. I guess we're starting back at square one with all my tests again. I go for an u/s on wed then take it from there. Nothing has been right since the d&c in Jan and I am over it. I told him I am out of time and I want a baby and I mean NOW!!! lol I think he got the picture, he he he

[jifnif]

i did see the penguin march!!!  I actually saw it right after my first miscarriage and cried all the way through it.  It was a good cry though.  I realized that it is just life and it just happens...even to penguins.  i know you weren't cursing her out....but you know what i meant...like you said...the injustice of it all.  

speaking of all this injustice...dont you hate sometimes when people say:  it'll happen when it happens, or ....it wasnt meant to be.....or it just wasnt the right time!!!!  All those things **** me off, even when I know someone is just trying to be nice.  :(

[suzettee]

I'm here everyday man i'm so depress ttc for about 5 years and i'm just 24 and can't get a child of my own so i know how it feels its like never for me it seem so impossible so i know how it feel especially all my friend that i grow with are mothers

[Helen72]

Last night I found out that one of my friends is pregnant yet again!  I could not help it  but cry for an hour.  Her good news made me so depressed.  After ttc for over 2 years it's hard not to resent the fact that others seem to have no problem getting prego.  Just like jifnif said, I can only hope that one day someone resents me  and I make someone else depressed  :)

[YvetteY]

I hope I wasn't cursing her out.  I'm very happy for her.  I can completely understand the trials and tribulatons of trying to conceive and all the worry she must have felt the entire pregnancy.  I curse the inequity of it all!!   The injustice.

What you said about your friend having twins, made me smile.   I can't believe the thoughts that creep into my mind sometimes.  Of course I would never act on it , but sometimes I think, "That's an adorable baby!  I bet I could pass it off as my own."  LOL!   Don't worry I would NEVER steal anyone's baby!!

I think it's natural...did you seen the Penquin March?  One mommy penquin's baby didn't make it throught the coldness in the snow and her baby died.  Then she tried to take another momma penquin's baby.  It was a show down, but the grieving momma penquin conceded.  

[jifnif]

it does suck...for us trying..not her...but one day that will be you and someone will be cursing you out too...:)  i just had this happen to me...the first time i saw the girl we were both prego....she just delivered twins and i have been pregnant twice in that time...:(  sometimes i just wanta say..."you really don't want two do you?"....just jokingly...but part of me isnt joking...i hope that doesnt sound scary....i just wonder how it is so easy for some and so hard for others  

[YvetteY]

Yes...I think I can ask her that.  Unfortunately , she 's on medical leave; I've been thinking about shooting her an email, but I'm not sure if she's checking it while she's at home.   We're at that point, where we're going to use donor eggs; I am very shocked if she didn't.   At 46 your risk for Downs is 1 in 20.   I would have been scared to the point that I wouldn't try with my own.

[sarge1]

Maybe she used donor eggs?  Are you close enough to her to ask what she did?  

[Brown Eyed Gurl]

Congrats to her but I think at 48 I'd have adopted before then.

[YvetteY]

If you ever wanted to learn about life isn't fair, this is definitely the place to come!  Okay...I'm finished venting!!