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3 funerals in 4 months all close family - I need help and advice Please
Im 17, over the past 4 months Ive gone through a lot. Ive had three deaths in the family all of which I was hugely effected by. I find myself crying a lot for no real reason. I thought ID already grieved but sometimes when I start crying over nothing I cant help but think about the people Ive lost which results in me getting more upset. Im rarely happy. I still laugh but only really happy when Im with my boyfriend or my parents. I used to be a really bubbly person with lots of friends and I was really talkative but now I struggle to find anything to say in a group of friends. I want to go back to my old self. I just dont know if or when it will happen. What can I do? I cant think of how to make myself happy. How can I get over this?
No problem I lost three people when I was 15 in a matter of months as well, and know that it can be hard.
You are real young to have to deal with so much grief. Try getting out your emotions in a journal or in some way that you feel comfortable. Write your loved ones, if you don't feel like you got closure. This way you can tell them how much you cared and get to say goodbye in a way that brings closure for you. The main thing to remember is that the pain will go away.
To get back to your old self you need to try to go out with those same group of friends and slowly I believe you will open back up. Talk to your parents and your boyfriend about your grief as well. Just knowing that you have supportive family and friends will help you as well.
The most important advice I can give you is don't let this be your defining moment. Don't let these four deaths consume who you are. It's ok to grieve, but its bot ok for the grief to take over your life. The loved ones that have passed on want to see you strong and living a happy life. They want to see you succeed and not let their deaths take over your life. The hurt and emotions will take time to get pass but you will be fine just as long as you let those emotions out, and remember to find joy in your life.
If you need to talk message me I am here to hear you out.
To get back to your old self you need to try to go out with those same group of friends and slowly I believe you will open back up. Talk to your parents and your boyfriend about your grief as well. Just knowing that you have supportive family and friends will help you as well.
The most important advice I can give you is don't let this be your defining moment. Don't let these four deaths consume who you are. It's ok to grieve, but its bot ok for the grief to take over your life. The loved ones that have passed on want to see you strong and living a happy life. They want to see you succeed and not let their deaths take over your life. The hurt and emotions will take time to get pass but you will be fine just as long as you let those emotions out, and remember to find joy in your life.
If you need to talk message me I am here to hear you out.
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