My dad died today.

[blessedmomof3]

Hello, I'm 4 months pregnant and lost my dad today. I am so angry! Even though he was sick for a year w/ Lung Cancer, I am still very angry over this loss. I feel like I have been under attack for the past 4 years. In 2004 I lost my Uncle, 2005 my grandmother, 2007 I lost 2 pregancies, and now my dad! I realy thought (in my own nieve way) he would survive this, because I have suffered enough. I worry everyday about my baby and even my dad was worried about how his death would effect my pregnancy. He made me promise I wouldn't allow it effect the health of my baby and I am determined not to, but at the same time I have learned over the years I realy have no control. He suffered dearly and I watched him sit in pain and suffer. In the end I couldn't be there, it was too much to bare. I'm just trying to wrap my mind around the fact that I no longer have a dad.

[Ijustwannabebetter93]

I lost my dad in 2008. I'm now 18 soon to be 19 on the 24th of this month. I'm having a rough time. My mom is not the same, my dad was only 37 years old. I found him dead. I have thought about just going away but it's against my religion. Since my dad has passed everything has changed I have 2 beautiful nieces in my life now and wish he was here to see them. But my little brother who is 16 is going on the wrong path,my mom stays in the room and yells at us constantly and uses my dad against me,my older brother is married at 19 with a child and he just left to the Air Force and My sister is 23 who has a baby and isn't the same because her boyfriend now husband got her hooked on pain medicine. Telling me I treated him bad when I didn't. Please I need some sort of guidance. God bless

[turkee23]

im so sorry for your loss, its hard, very very hard and almost unbearable.  but heaven needed your dad, and the lord left you with that baby in your belly. that your dad reborn. you dad is watching over you and his grandbaby, do what he said and try not to stress. he loves you and will ALWAYS be with you ....

[Judy246]

I'm so very sorry for the passing of your father and the difficult times your are having. I know them well, I had 7 death, which included my mother, who died in my arms and two weeks before christmas my sister in law miscarried my only brother's first child....all within an 8 month period. I loss my job and the man I thought I would spend the rest of my life, couldn't handle my grief and left me too. I lived and walked through hell and I will never be the same. Death has a way of changing you as a human being.

I had death, after death. I was so distraught that I almost had to be hospitalized, because I  became physically sick. I was devistated, hurt, angry at God, I was just a mess, buy God was merciful with me.

That was 2 years ago and I promise that this too shall pass within it's time. You do have to experience the grief process and have take care of yourself, because, bittersweet, you have your fathers precious grandchild on the way.

My mom died in July 19, 2007 and she now has a 3 week old grandaughter that looks just like her (see the photo's I have posted of Caitly and mom's grave). My mom "is" Cathy and her grandaughter is Caitlyn. Caitlyn has her round face, eyes and same identical toes.

Your father does not want you to suffer. You and your baby are his legacy and he is only a transition away. He want's you and baby to simply live. Live life to the fullest. Rest easy and hang in there one day at a time, because you will survive this.

I will keep you and your precious dad in my thoughts and prayers.

[ginger899]

Being angry can be a normal part of grieving. It's like part of you is trying to 'fight back' against something that has hurt you deeply. It's also a way to fight against something which is scary. You know what that tells me? You're a fighter, not a quitter.

It has only just happened, your dad's death. You will feel all kinds of things right now, and it will echo all your other losses. It is a big one, the death of a parent. I am so sorry for your loss. My own mother is fairly close to death right now, so I know.

No-one can control the deep powerful processes of Nature. Death is one of those processes. It is so hard for us to understand -why loved ones can be snatched away from us like that. But you have the promise of new life and joy and hope growing inside you. Do take care of that little one.

I have lost many loved ones. It seems the Universe is against you, but it isn't. It is just the processes of Nature. It was your Dad's time to leave this world. His Soul has been freed. That's not a cliche. To me it's real and true.

You will always miss your Dad. I know. I miss mine. I often think of him, and send a prayer to him wherever he is, and thank him for all he ever did for me.

Bless you. I hope you are ok through this really bad time. I feel you will be. Grieve, because that is natural. But remember the little one inside you, and start to look forward, too.