Time Doesn't Heal All Wounds

[divanay]

I lost my son last July from a miscarriage. 19 weeks prenant and excited about my new addition. I blamed myself for months. The funeral was the hardest thing that I ever had to go through. My other kids suffered too along with my boyfriend. Months has passed and I still haven't visited his grave yet. I want to visit, but I freeze up every time. Is that a bad thing. I miss my baby so much and I think of him every day. Anyone experience this before?

[skyler411]

Hi, I will never understand why god who creates life would take it away before he /she even had a chance to live.I know rhe pain u r in all to well! I lost my baby at 38wks , just six months ago and I am on here looking for support too! Pls feel free to message me anytime (huggs))

[skyler411]

Hi, I will never understand why god who creates life would take it away before he /she even had a chance to live.I know rhe pain u r in all to well! I lost my baby at 38wks , just six months ago and I am on here looking for support too! Pls feel free to message me anytime (huggs))

[mammo]

There is no greater loss than that of a child.  I just lost my second son and I can tell you that a big part of you goes with your child.  It's so said and unfair.  You have to grieve in your own personal way, and you will visit the grave when you are ready.  Be patient with yourself, and take it one day at a time or you will be overwhelmed.  Journal your feeling and emotions, even if you just throw them away.  Or you can keep a journal in honor of your baby...or do both.  Writing about our loss serves as a big release for us, and can be very helpful.  There is so much I still don't understand with losing both my sons.  I do know that often babies are lost due to illness, and maybe something/someone bigger than all of us didn't want your baby to have a horrible life in this world with lots of suffering.  Focus on your children and let them be the wind beneath your wings through all of this.  That is all I am doing to get through my own loss.  I am so very sorry, big hugs to you.

[lisaob1]

im so so sorry for your loss..i wish I could tell you the pain leaves you...time is a healer because you learn to deal with it more...I wish I had kinder words..or at least words to tell you it would all be ok...IT WILL BE OK....but I know the loss you feel in  your heart...like every mother that loses a child feels.....you HAVE to keep strong..and know your not alone..i lost my daughter when she was almost 4...but like tattoomommy03 said..it doesn't matter as a mum when you lost your child....you have to keep going..especially for your lovely kids..my advice is get any help offered to you to help you not get over your loss...but help you come to terms with it to build your life again....I made that mistake...for years it took over me...you have to let go..or at least try huni....im here too if you need to talk....with best wishes..

[tattoomommy03]

Im sorry about the loss of your baby. I too had a loss at 11 weeks. Time does heal but it doesn't take away the pain if that makes sense.  It get easier with time.
and as far as you not visiting his site.. you will on your own time. The loss of a child is painful. No matter the age. Born or not. I do wish you the best. Im here if yoh need to talk.