Trying to cope with my mom's loss.

[etaxitpo]

I am devistated.  I go through my normal day to day but believe me I am a broken person.

People have gone on with their normall day to day activities, and I look at them through tears.

How do I get over this?  I try but it seems like it has been so long since I have spoken with my mom and I want to so bad.  It is truly like torment.  I miss her terribly.  

I am dreading Mother's Day.  I will have nothing to do that day.  I used to put so much in to making her day special.  I did all throughout the year but I really tried to make Mother's Day extra special.

I have tried to find a word to describe how I feel everyday -- I have yet to find one.  

I need some help!!!

[Judy246]

Also, honor her special day. She would not want you to suffer and I'm sure she would have wanted you to celebrate mothers day. The first birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, Christmas, etc...are very difficult.

Take her beautiful flowers and write her a special note. Also, talk to her in prayer...she is still part of the family. She is listening and one day soon will send you a sign of comfort that she is ok and wants you to be ok. Judy

[Judy246]

It will take time. One day at a time, but it will be necessary to go through the stages of the grief process in order to heal.

I was soooo devistated at the death of my mother that I couldn't function. I loss a great job as a result and had to take time out for myself to just think, cry and simply do nothing. I couldn't function.

I still have a hard time going to the cemetary and it just kills me to know that my mother is buried.  That my precious, caring, loving, Christian mom is in the ground.

It has been now 2 yrs. and I'm just starting to be functional.  I will get a new job, take care of my 84 yrs. old father who is with me and move forward, but it has been a life changing event and we will never be the same again.

Let God be your strenght and He will get you through.  He did me. Judy

[abby10]

You never lose them. They go to a safe place in your heart and you will smile again.

abby

[iam1butterfly]

"Devastated" and "broken" define the feeling accurately. The word that comes to my mind is "lost" along, with an intense sense of loneliness. Recognize Mother's Day with all the positive thoughts and experiences that you have of her. Talk to her; she'll hear you. The ancient Romans believed that as long as a person is remembered or their name is mentioned; they never die... I firmly believe that to be true!