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mom passed away

I wake up with panic attacks. I get really scared. I think about death. I feel extreme loneliness,  Can't think clear. Don't know what to do.
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Feeling alone is part of the grief process, having panic attacks is not. The loss of a loved one is not only life changing, it's traumatic! I use to wake up at 3 am, grief stricken and wanting to go to the cemetary and put a warm blanket over my mothers grave. One time, I went to visit and did not expect to react the way I did...I fell on my knees right on top of the grave whailing in grief asking my mother, "mommy, where are you" over and over again. In my situation, my brother married, a week later my mother died in my arms from Congestive Heart Failure and diabities. She died suffocated and her face was swollen and purple. She had so many tubes in her she was almost not recognizable. A week later, her brother in law died, a week later my fiance's father died of the same condition as my mom. What are the chances that this could have happened to the both of us and my wedding was postpone. Her best friend that attended her wake and burial died 4 months later, my brother and wife loss a baby 2 wks before Christmas, my dog died and I loss my job! I felt like "Job" from the bible being tested, yet God is and will continue to be my strength. Although I almost had to be hospitalized for stress and my throat would swell dangerously from grief, I am a survivor and you will too! Death is cruel, raw and unmerciful, but death can never take the bond and love that my mom and I have for each other and I know that one day in God's time, I will see her again, because I believe in Jesus Christ and hope in the resurrection.
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Hi,
When did your mother pass?  Did you live with her?  Were you very close?  That is ..did you visit often and talk on phone frequently?  Or, were you emotionally close, but not the type to confer regularly.  Answering these questions will help us help you.

Need to have a bit more information to be supportive.  Judy's advice is sound.  You may have already seen a counselor.  Hope so.

It is awful to wake feeling alone and panicky.  I am not going to go into my recent loss: it is easy to find it in this forum.   I am in first stages of grief after son's murder.  It has been a month and I am coping better than at first.  You will too.  There is a numbness at first. It is shock.  When that passes you may will feel the full loss. Think that may be where you are now.

Keep posting.  We are a good group.  I post most frequently in agoraphobia and anxiety forums.  The panic you are having could be addressed there if you like.



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My mother died in my arms and I had 7 deaths in 8 months, loss my job and my beautiful dog Toby died also. Death was hanging out in my house and among my friends. I have been to hell and back on my knees and God has given me the strength to be a survivor. I have learned that death is not to be feared, why? It is part of life and we must accept what we can't change, but not fear death. Also, once we have experienced such a hugh loss, we must go through the stage of the grief process in order to heal. There is no way around this one and it's important to talk to someone about your feeling or join a grief support group will also help hughly. If you don't seek help for your grief, it will be debilitating and you will not be able to function and that is unhealthy and not normal, so seek a counselor or group where you can talk about your feelings, fears and concerns and one step at a time, you will survive losing your mom like I did. We also never truly get over such a loss, but we learn to live with what we can't change and must live life to the fullest. Your beautiful mother would not want you suffering, so seek counseling and you are going to be just fine, one day at a time.
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