Been 6 years

[Andrea26]

Six years ago we lost a son 2 hours after he was born due to prematurity..he was born 12/20/2001..At this time as the holidays approach I find it very hard to concentrate and kinda retreat and keep things to myself..I feel horrible that I do this because this is suppose to be joyous time of the year and my other kids don't understand..How do I come to terms with this and not let it affect me like this so my other children that are here with me can enjoy the holidays like they should be able to?

[what2donow]

Im so sorry for your loss.I know that must be a very hard thing but I agree that you should talk about this with your spouse or someone else close to you.Have you considered a support group?Also God gave you children and they are children only one time.Dont let anything get in the way of watching them grow and change.Greiving is so hard and I know you have lost one child but think about how you will feel if you wake up in 20 years and realize that you missed so much of your other children!!!Take care and write me any time!!!

Best of luck

[jdesouza]

My wife and I were in the World Trade Center when the planes hit and were stuck there for a couple of hours before getting out. What we saw effected my wife tremedously and for 5 years she wasn't really able to talk about it. Whenever the anniversary came up she would retreat for a while. It was on the fifth anniversary that we eventually spent a lot of time talking about it and eventually came to terms with it. It has gotten much better since then. Whenever you are ready I think you should discuss it with your family and share your emotions. You will then be able to better focus on your other lovely children.
Hope you feel better.