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1702652 tn?1384793527

Missing my baby girl

On August10th, 2010 my baby girl grew her angel wings up in heaven. She was just 4years old. This August makes it one year since she passed away. I miss her so much. Even though I miss her more than anything in the world my boyfriend and I a few months ago decided that we want to try to have a baby. I really want to have another baby but at the same time I feel like in a way its wrong for me to try to get pregnant. I know I shouldn't worry about what others think but at the same time I feel like if I were to get pregnant and have another baby people are going to look at me and think that I am trying to replace my daughter. I know that can not replace her. I'm I wrong for feeling this way?
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535822 tn?1443976780
No they wont think you are trying to replace her, how could you , each child is different, do not think like that, think of a new baby as a fresh begining and would be a sister /brother for her .It is natural/normal to feel like this at this time of the year. I hope you can feel some peace ...marg
1702652 tn?1384793527
Thank you.
1743306 tn?1332448387
Sweet girl, I'm so sorry you had to go through such a thing. I lost my son in September, he was stillborn, so to an extent I do feel your pain. But thinking of losing Jack at 4-years-old, wow, I can't imagine. No mother should EVER have to go through this. I wish things could be reversed, but it's only a matter of time before we do get to see our children again.

I think it would be a good idea to give it a go. You will not, ever, in any way be replacing her. I think having a little brother or sister for Phoenix would be a great idea, I think it would be very healing. Reach out to her if you need the strength, I'm sure she wouldn't want to see her mommy sad. Keep her name alive, always in your thoughts, in your hearts...you would be bringing home a sibling for her, not replacing her, I promise!


1702652 tn?1384793527
Thank you. This really helps me. She always wanted a baby brother or sister. It really makes me sad that when it does happen she wont there to meet them. Thanks a lot.
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Hi I'm Lisa and I'm so so sorry for your loss I to lost my little girl aged four. I don't know u but it's been 15 yrs since I lost my baby. I miss her to this day and it's been so hard an I have good friends and family. Nothing took that pain away. Only now after all this time I'm tryin to move on. Please get help and take care coz I was to pig headed an lost so much of life that was actually happening around me. Please feel free to ask or anything coz I truely understand x x
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Hi I'm Lisa and I'm so so sorry for your loss I to lost my little girl aged four. I don't know u but it's been 15 yrs since I lost my baby. I miss her to this day and it's been so hard an I have good friends and family. Nothing took that pain away. Only now after all this time I'm tryin to move on. Please get help and take care coz I was to pig headed an lost so much of life that was actually happening around me. Please feel free to ask or anything coz I truely understand x x
1702652 tn?1384793527
Thank you very much and Im sorry for your loss as well.
1519983 tn?1401046428
I definitely think you should keep trying to make your family whole. Your little girl Phoenix was and will always be a part of your family. You are not trying to feel any holes, but just to make your family whole. I wish you all the best of luck on TTC and hope you get another beautiful baby in your family to enjoy as much as you enjoyed Phoenix and you still can enjoy the memories you had for those short four years you had them. You and your hubby will be in my prayers.

Hugs~~~
1351078 tn?1416313146
your not replacing  her you are adding to the family is all . Im very sorry for your  loss.  my mom lost my brother and when i had a m/c in april I like to think that i had that baby for my brother to take care of in heaven . I miss my baby very much but still am trying for another  I dont look it as a replacement just a addition to the family . when you do have another baby you can share  with him or her how awesome  their sister was :) im sorry you  had to expirence the loss of a child .
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