You have been through so much and it just continues. I am so sorry for all your loses. How much can a person take? I don't know, but supposedly God never gives us more than we can take.
You need an outlet. You definitely need a place or a person you can go to for YOU to lean on for a change. You put on your smile and work through each day to your best, but you need a place to break down...It is not healthy to hold it all in. You have enough psychological issues already. You don't need to make it worse...Is there anyone you can talk to? Someone you can just cry and scream to? Someone to hug you? Maybe your husband? Any friends in England? Maybe try a therapist one more time. You need to do this for YOU. If you don't you will not be able to hold it together for everyone else.
My prayers are with you. And I am so sorry for the news that you have just heard.
I know how you feel sinster, I walk in the same shoes everyday. I posted back in March about how much more can one family handle. I had just come from the hospital where I stood by my uncles bed while he passed away.
I come from two large families. Both of my parents had 11 brother and sisters. Both of them lost brothers when the brothers were just 2 yrs old, which means I had 40 aunts and uncles, and more cousins then I can count.
This means that I have had more funerals in my lifetime so far then most people will ever have. My dad being the worst. To give you an idea of what I go through on a yearly basis, the year my dad died, I had lost aunt in Feb. my dad died in May, I had another aunt that died the day after my dad, and I had an uncle die that Dec. There was also a year when I lost my grandmother, and an aunt, and while they were driving to the cemetery, my aunts husband died in the back of the limo.
It is very hard to go through this on a daily basis. However, my mom is the baby of the 12 in her family, so watching them all die is the sentence she must serve, and us being the youngest of the grandchildren, our fate will be much like my moms.
I wish I had an answer for you, but I too must face what you face, and how don't know how to get through it myself.