I've only had one sexual partner (my husband) and have never had any serious health issues.
For the first 4 years, nothing was wrong with our sex life. But when I first went to the gynecologist, he told me I had a bartholin gland cyst on the bottom left that would eventually cause problems. A year later, I began to have sharp pains when I became sexually aroused in that are, and I could notice a small bump. I also began to have issues producint lubricant. This pain only lasted during foreplay; I was able to have intercourse without any discomfort as long as I got through the initial pain.
During my next yearly check, I told him about it. He took a look and said it had a "bluish" hue to it. I told him about the pain, how it was only at the beginning and it was intense enough to stop sex, but he really didn't have an answer for me.
The next year, I again brought it up. He felt around and said that the cyst was gone. By that time, we pretty much stopped having sex because of the pain, so I wasn't sure if it still hurt. Come to find out, it did still hurt.
When I finally got in to see to the gynecologyst, my doctor had retired. I told my new one everything that was going on and everything my previous doctor said. She checked it all out, pressed on everything you could think of, and she couldn't find a trace of a bump and said everything looked healthy. I asked her if she knew what was going on, and she honestly had no answer. She said she would talk with her colleagues and call me back, but I haven't heard any communication with her, and when I try to call, I get the nurse's station's voicemail and get no reply back.
I'm tired of not having an answer. It hurts, and my husband now believes it's all in my head like I don't want to have sex and I'm making this up. If you have any notion, theory, a new idea I can bring up next time I'm there, or maybe a specialist I need to see for this, please let me know. Thank you for your help; I truly appreciate it.