Welcome to the forum and thanks for your question.
However, I'm not sure I can help. The problem here is psychological. From both this question and the one you asked on the community forum, it seems that you know that you had safe sex and there is little or no risk for HIV. You obviously have a disconnect between that intellectual understanding and your emotional response -- i.e. believing you really are not at risk. But all I can possibly do is reassure you that your intellectual understanding is correct.
Statistically, it is unlikely your commercial partner had HIV, which is quite uncommon in Malaysian sex workers. Second, oral sex is safe sex in regard to HIV, with virtually no transmissions ever known to occur from an oral to penile partner. Third, as you probably know (again, intellectually) it is exceedingly unlikely the condom came off or ruptured without your knowing -- so the vaginal exposure also was safe.
Many positive HSV-2 blood test results are false -- it depends on the numerical result. If you'll let me know the details, I'll comment on the likelihood that you actually are infected with HSV-2. But even if we assume you are, having it only doubles your risk of catching HIV if sexually exposed, which is more or less meaningless. Based on the information above, I would guess your HIV risk at no more than 1 in a million. Would it really make any difference if the true risk were 1 in 500,000 instead? Obviously not.
And on top of all this, your negative rapid HIV test at 3 weeks, although too early to be definitive, is probably 80% reliable. Frankly, based on the risk alone, I would have told you that there was really no need for HIV testing at all. The only reason for it is the reassurance you will gain from the negative result. There is no realistic chance it will be positive at any time in the future.
And finally, you really don't need to wait until 3 months for definitive HIV testing. Take a look at the thread linked below:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/1704700
Given the intellectual/emotional disconnect, I suspect you'll remain worried despite my comments -- although of course I hope you find them helpful. The bottom line is that there is no realistic chance you caught HIV.
Best wishes-- HHH, MD