Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your question.
I'm happy to reinforce and expand upon the accurate replies you had on the community forum. This was a zero risk exposure for HIV. First, oral sex is virtually risk free. Second, your friend's negative HIV test about a month after the threesome event is highly reliable; the statistical chance he was in a window period that long after your exposure is virtually zero. Third, even if there were a possibility he were infected, the amount of his secretions to which you could have been exposed (i.e. after dilution in the woman's mouth) almost certainly could not have transmitted HIV. Finally, your symptoms are not at all suggestive of a new HIV infection. Both the nature of the symptoms (cold symptoms, a single possibly inflamed lymph node) and their timing (ARS symptoms always start within 2 weeks) are wrong.
My advice is that you have an HIV test. Not because I believe there is any signficant risk; only because you're nervous and usually a negative test is stronger reassurance than anything an expert can judge based on probability and statistics. Enough time has passed for highly reliable antibody testing; or for 100% conclusive proof if you have a duo ("4th generation") blood test for both HIV antibody and p24 antigen.
I'll be happy to comment further if and when you have been tested and would like to post the result. But since a definitive answer is so readily available, I won't participate in speculation. Stay mellow as you wait to be tested; you can definitely expect a negative result. I'm sure nobody has ever caught HIV in the sort of circumstances you have described, and you're not going to be the first.
I hope this has helped. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
I submitted this an hour ago and paid for your service. Can you please reply to my question. I'm very anxious.
Patience, patience. The moderators are not on call 24/7. Questions usually are answered within 8 hours and always by 24 hours.
Thank you sir. That's reassuring. I appreciate you having a forum like this for us who are hypochondriacs. Thanks again. I'll be sure to post the result. God Bless!
Your reply was reassuring, but I figured I'd elaborate more about my symptoms. A lot of sites say acute HIV attacks salivary glands. Below is what worries me.
-6/20/13 sexual contact or exposure
-7/20/13 got a cold/mild flu (congested, dry Cough, fatigue, sore throat
-7/27/13 due to pain/discomfort, noticed a swollen salivary gland under my right jawline while eating.
-8/23/13 developed a cold (dry cough and very congested)
-Present still have lump/swollen salivary gland. Intermittently when swallowing my submandibular and paratid produce pain and intermittently produce a dull ache.
Could this salivary issue be HIV?
I said I won't speculate when a clear answer is readily available. But your symptoms are not at all suggestive of HIV.
Other than reporting a test result, any further comments or questions will be deleted without reply.
Just got my test results back and it is negative at the 3 month mark!
As expected -- but congratulations. Take care and stay safe.