Welcome to the forum.
Like you, I am puzzled that a Western blot was done. You are correct that normally WB is not performed except to confirm a positive or indeterminant initial test. It seems likely that one of your ELISAs showed a weakly positive or uncertain result. However, that also doesn't really make sense. In that circumstance, the standard approach is to do the WB on the same blood specimen. But maybe your specimen was inadvertantly discarded before the WB could be done.
In any case, it is also true that the WB itself can show indeterminate results, usually for the reason you understand -- incomplete or atypical bands positive. Such results virtually never indicate HIV.
Even with the question mark about the WB, you can be 100% certain you do not have HIV. It is impossible to have HIV with both negative tests for the virus itself (PCR and p24 antigen, which is included in the 4th generation tests) and antibody by ELISA. Further, you describe an exposure that was impossible as a source of HIV transmission, which has never been reported to occur by cunnilingus (oral-vaginal contact).
In other words, the two doctors who originally advised against testing were exactly right: you should never have been tested in the first place. In fact, this is the second question in 2 days in which someone got into trouble with false results because of anxieties that led them to excess testing -- with the result of simply increasing your anxieties. See
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV-Prevention/Test-result/show/1509802. I'll say again what I said there: nobody should ever be tested for HIV beyond the recommended intervals, e.g. after a negative antibody test at 3 months. Excess testing never makes it more certain that someone isn't infected, and sometimes raises doubts that simply inflame an already anxious and overwrought mind.
Anyway, you can be sure you don't have HIV. If you have other questions about it, please discuss them with the doctors in charge of your care. They are in a much better position than I am to clarify any remaining doubts.
Regards-- HHH, MD