This answer will be brief. As I will discuss below, your risk of HIV from a single exposure are very, very low and I am confident that your symptoms are not due to HIV.
First your risk. The chances that your partner has HIV are less than 1% unless she is an IV drug user. In addition, your risk from a single act of unprotected vaginal intercourse is, on average, 1 infection per 1000 acts of intercourse (oral sex does not add any appreciable risk to this). Thus, on the basis of these two facts alone, your risk for HIV from the exposure you describe is less than 1 in 100,000. This is not something to be too worried about.
As for your symptoms, tingling in the toes is not a manifestation of early HIV infection or the so-called ARS. The symptoms of the ARS are like those of the flu and less than 1% of persons with flu-like symptoms who seek care for them have the ARS. Since many more people have these symptoms and do not seek medical care, once again, even if you had flu like symptoms, the probability that you have the ARS remains vanishingly low.
It is far more likely that the symptoms you describe are a manifestation of you anxiety and guilt. While your risk is very low, I suspect you would benefit from an HIV blood test, primarily for the peace of mind it will give you. At 4 weeks following the exposure about 90% of persons who have acquired HIV will have positive blood tests and at 8 weeks it is virtually 100%. Thus my advice to you is to get tested and, in the meantime, try your best not to worry. EWH
one quick question,
bad bacterial taste in my mouth and a small sore spot on the roof of my mouth. it's been almost 3 weeks since the incident. I have had drainage in my throat since the very next day since then. Probably allergies. But is this an early sign of HIV? Have you ever heard of anything like this?
No, this is not a sign of early HIV. EWH