Welcome to the HIV forum. I'll try to help. This isn't (or shouldn't be) the "nightmare" you describe.
First, your symptoms are meaningless. They don't really suggest HIV, which doesn't cause "a little higher temperature" without fever; it sounds like you caught a cold. Even if you had classical symptoms of acute HIV infection, it wouldn't mean much; as we have described innumerable times on this forum, even the most classical HIV symptoms usually are due to other conditions, especially in low risk situations like this one.
And that's the second point: this was a low risk exposure. That your partner is concerned about YOUR status with respect to HIV tends to confirm that she is quite sure she isn't infected and intends to stay that way. After all, from a statistical standpoing, commercial sex workers are at greater risk of getting HIV from their customers than the other way around. And in the extremely unlikely chance she actually has HIV, the average risk of transmission for unprotected vaginal sex (female to male) is around once for every 2,000 exposures. That's equivalent to daily sex with infected women for 5 years and maybe never catching it. And that's for completely unprotected sex; given the brevity of your unprotected exposure, your risk would be a whole lot lower.
You should get tested, as you are planning to do, for peace of mind. (That advice is not code that means I really think there was substantial risk. I do not.) You don't need to wait so long for valid testing. With modern HIV tests, virtually all newly infected people have positive results by 6 weeks. You can have a single antibody (ELISA) test about 2 weeks from now, with complete reliance on the result -- which will be negative.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
This question is in the wrong forum; I wasn't paying attention. But no harm done. It will be moved to the HIV Prevention and Safe Sex Forum.
Dear Doctor HHH,
I hope you'll read this comment. I had been tested with the DUO test after 35 days post-exposure and got a negative result. I feel much better now, since this test is considered almost definitive. I'll repeat the antibody test after 3 months for complete peace of mind.
I wanted to thank you for your support and realistic (not uselessly alarmistic) approach to this subject, because in my view, here in the UK at least, institutions tend to scare people in order to limit risky exposures: right, but done the wrong way can terrify people like me (and I think there are many).
Last question: do you suggest a test for Epathitis B? What about a vaccination for Epathitis B? I have already been for other common STDs,
Thanks one and for all
Hepatitis B is much too low risk to warrant testing on account of this exposure. When transmitted sexually, it entirely by unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse. Although an STD in many ways, most STD clinics never test for it except in men who have sex with men and injection drug users; it's too rare in everyone else to make it worthwhile.
That said, it's a good idea for everyone -- regardless of sexual activity risks -- to be immunized against hepatitis B. On that ground, you should do it.