Welcome to the forum. Thanks for your question.
Actually, you don't need to wait 3 months (and certainly not 6 months) for reliable HIV testing. You don't say the exact timing of your first test, but if it was done about 3 weeks after the exposure, it's around 80% reliable. It takes about 6 weeks for 100% reliability for the standalone antibody tests (below I have provided the link to a thread that describes why the official advice remains 3 months). And if you make the effort to find a doctor or clinic that offers the combo test (for both HIV antibody and p24 antigen), the results are 100% reliable any time after 4 weeks.
You don't describe your partner, so I can't assess the chance she had HIV. But if not a commercial sex worker or injection drug user, there's probably under 1 chance in a thousand she has HIV. And a single vaginal sex exposure rarely results in transmission, even if the female partner is infected. The risk could be a bit higher, given the apparent acquisition of chlamydia -- but still the odds are very strongly in your favor.
Finally, your sore throat and possibly enlarged tonsils don't concern me at all. It is rare if ever that these are the only symptoms of a new HIV infection, and anyway they started much too soon. HIV symptoms can't start sooner than 8-10 days after exposure. And "hot flashes" and "body pains" are common with just about any minor viral infection and don't suggest HIV.
So all things considered, it is exceedingly unlikely you acquired HIV. To be absolutely certain, have another test with the timing suggested above. In the meantime, stay mellow. I'll eat my hat if you turn out to have HIV.
Here is the thread with the discussion about timing of reliable test results. Read it all; the important information is in the follow-up comments:
Best wishes-- HHH, MD