The chance of catching HIV through and particular vaginal sex event is very low -- low enough that even 4-5 exposures carries little practical risk. This comes from both the low chance your partner had HIV plus the rarity of HIV transmission if she had it (an average chance around 1 in 2,000 for each unprotected vaginal exposure). Further, LabCor's test method is completely reliable and your negative HIV test at 10 weeks shows for sure you did not catch HIV and that ARS is not a possible cause of your sympoms or your wife's. No illness or medicine alters the reliability of HIV test results.
The only STD related issue here might be your "prostatitis", which is uncommon in younger men and is not sexually acquired. It also is often misdiagnosed in men who actually have sexually acquired nongonococcal urethritis (NGU), which in turn can cause UTI-like symptoms in women. Further, cipro is not the best drug for NGU. If your treatment has not included a tetracycline antibiotic (such as doxycycline) or azithromycin (Zithromax), you might discuss this aspect with your doctor. To be maximally certain there is nothing persisting in your genital tract and to assure your wife's safety, perhaps you both should be treated with one of those drugs. However, I stress that this is not likely; I'm just making sure all bases were covered. This definitely is not causing any of your or your wife's current symtpoms.
Most of your symptoms sound more like the physical manifestations of anxiety than anything else; you probably should discuss that aspect with your doctor. No STD is a likely cause of your wife's hair loss.
So discuss the NGU business and the likely anxiety link with your doctor. But disregard HIV. It simply isn't an issue here.
Good luck-- HHH, MD
Would NGU show up in a regular urine test given by my Doc. I remember giving urine several times and no infection was ever present. I guess the question is, is it possible to have it but not show up as infection in the urine with just a regular urine test?
Standard urine examinations do not diagnose NGU. Increased white blood cells (WBC) might or might not be present in the urine, but that's also true for prostatitis and UTI. NGU requires careful examination for abnormal urethral discharge (if you had that, it's a strong sign of NGU, not a prostate gland problem -- but many doctors don't know this) and examination of the discharge itself for WBC.
Thank you! When/How do you find time to respond to all these questions? This really is a good service you're offering....
Thank you for the advise. My Doc did put me on azithromycin (2 500MG Pills taken at once).
Is that the right does/treatment for NGU?
Also, I did experience very watery diarrhea about 3 hours after I took the pills, would that have washed the medicine out so to speak? Or would it have been absorbed by then?
This is my final post...
That is one of the correct treatments. Azithromycin often causes the sort of diarrhea you had. It does not change its effectiveness.