I need some help here. I have been with my wife since 2009. She lives in another country, and I am in Canada. I am now in the process of her immigrating to Canada. We were married last year (2012). I was worried about a condom falling off incident six years prior from 2005 in a former relationship, so I had an HIV test in 2011. I tested negative.
My wife and I are both monogamous and we are not IV drug users or users of ANY kinds of drugs, period. However, she has an irrational fear of HIV. She is set to go for her immigration medical in a few days, where HIV is one of the things they test for. She decided to get an HIV test in her city so she would know her status before her immigration medical, and not surprisingly, it was negative. It was the type of test where she got the results after about 90 minutes. The doctor drew blood from her arm, and her negative result showed up as one line. I guess that would be the rapid test? Her first fear is that she claims this type of test is supposed to be done with a finger prick, not an arm draw, as hers was. I keep telling her blood is blood, and the goal with the test is just to get some of her blood for the test, and whether it was her arm or finger makes no difference.
Secondly, she doesn't seem to understand what a conclusive HIV test result is. As I said, my wife and I are both monogamous, do not use drugs, and do not engage in risky activities. When I tested negative for HIV in the summer of 2011, I hadn't had any sexual contact with my wife (then my fiancée) for well over a year, and since she has since tested negative, anyway, it wouldn't have mattered if I had. She thinks I need another HIV test because I was at the dentist for a tooth extraction and filling and I could have been infected by dirty dental tools and/or the dentist. Unfortunately, she was on the Internet reading about some dentist who supposedly injected his patients with HIV.