Over 30 years after I stopped dating, I am back at it again after the end of my over 25 year marriage. I have had several encounters over the past two years with several different divorced, white females ages varying from 33 - 54, mostly healthcare professionals, like me. Most of the time I used protection, sometimes I messed up and did not. That is how I discovered this forum and the reassurance that it has offered. I always use protection until I am convinced that it is safe not to.
Here is what I am dealing with currently. I had unprotected vaginal intercourse with my previous girlfriend July 11. She is white, divorced, a RN, early 40's, several children who said that she is negative for HIV. I tested anyway August 23; negative. Started another relationship in with a medical profesional, DWF early 50s, several kids, not promiscious. Before we had unprotected sex for the first time 11/18/11 she assured me that she is HIV negative, had been tested, and had been with no one else since long term boyfriend three months before, who is a internal medicine physician. She tested because the boyfriend had cheated on her with a DWF in her early 50s who is a teacher. I have known both my current girlfriend and her former BF for over 30 years.
Trying to be responsible, and be absolutely sure I was not endangering my new girlfriend from my previous relationship, I was tested again December 20, negative. What is bothering me is that my current girlfriend's negative test (probably antibody) was done in August '11 "about three weeks" after her last unprotected sex with her former boyfriend, who had already been with the "other woman."
She has offered to be tested again, she just has not had time and is not worried about it. In the meantime, can you offer any stats, demographics, etc. that can be applied to this scenario to help with my anxiety? I have lots of friends and relatives who are physicians and they say I worry too much, forget it.