In November, I had vaginal sex with a 23 year old caucasian man from Ontario, and the condom broke. I am not entirely sure how long we had sex unprotected..as a worst-case scenario, let's say it was 5-10 minutes of unprotected sex without ejaculation). We put on another condom which remained in tact through to ejaculation. However, the next day I found a piece of the first broken condom had remained in my body from the previous night...
He had just gotten out of a longterm relationship, and he claimed that he and his previous partner had had unprotected sex, given that they had both been tested for hiv and stds. He claims he was negative and asked when I had been tested. (I tested negative in September). He is not a drug user to my knowledge, and is heterosexual. .
About 4 weeks ago, I attempted to have protected vaginal sex with an ex-boyfriend (unknown status). He is a 27 year old caucasian, non-drug user, and heterosexual from Ottawa, Ontario. I know he has many, many partners, but I am inclined to believe that he generally practices safe sex. After less than 2 minutes, we stopped having sex, as he could not maintain a full erection and he said he needed a different condom. I am not sure if he ejaculated prematurely, or at all, as he had taken the condom off before I saw it, and now I am afraid that some semen may have entered my body. He assured me that "the condom was on, but it just didn't go all the way down his penis". Given his small size, perhaps only 2 inches may have been covered. I told him of my fears of pregnancy and HIV and he said that I was fine and he was sure that no fluid entered my body. BUT, perhaps he just said that to calm me down. So, all that to say, I am absolutely terrified that the sex was indeed unprotected.
I have paralyzing, sickening, fear that I have contracted HIV. Is this rational?
What are my risks? Is testing needed after 2 exposures? Thank you ever so much.