Condom protected sex = no measurable risk of catching HIV or most STDs. There have been claims of catching HIV despite wearinng condoms, but most of those reflect misinformation about risks, whether intentional or not. Condoms are not completely protective against herpes or HPV, however. Statistically the likelihood is that your massage parter doesn't have HIV. (What in heaven's name made you think that the number of sexual positions might have anything to do with the risk, by the way??)
1) HIV is not transmitted by saliva.
2) No risk for HIV. Perhaps very low risk for other STDs, especially herpes or HPV. I cannot make a numerical guess about the odds.
3) No need for HIV testing, unless you remain nervous and want to have a negative test for anxiety relief. Up to you.
4) The negative test result at 3+ months proves you didn't catch HIV. Canker sores or other symptoms don't matter; test results ALWAYS outweigh symptoms in judging whether or not someone has HIV.
5) I never guarantee someone isn't infected. But I see no reason for you to avoid sex with your wife, with or without condoms.
Good luck--- HHH, MD
Looks like the doc's busy right now -- hopefully he won't be offended if I reply. It's likely that you were at zero risk, whatsoever, for HIV from that event that you described. Protected sex is 100% safe. You're good.
Dr. HHH, apologies if I spoke out of turn.
NO RISK WHAT SO EVER, FORGET ABOUT IT
Dr. Handsfield. I have one last question:
How reliable is the result for Syphilis, Herpes, and HPV at 6 weeks mark? would 12 weeks consider conclusive for all STDs (HIV, Syphilis, Herpes, HPV, cham, gon, etc)?
Again, I want to thank Dr. Handsfield, and everyone for your comments. Your comments are very encouraging. I feel a little better now. However, I will get tested at 6 and 12 weeks mark just to be safe. Hopefully it will be negative. My wife wants to have sex but I have been avoiding her lately :(.
The anxiety is extremely tough to deal with, dude. I hear you. As far as the testing for those other STDs go, Dr. Handsfield will probably advise you better than I ever could, though I'm certain you could get a gonnorhea/chlamydia test right now and have it be accurate.
Just take the reassurance you've been given at face value and try to keep going. And believe me, I know that it's *FAR* easier said than done. Guilt's an STD too, in my opinion.
Since you could not have beome infected, it doesn't matter when you test. If something comes back positive, it will be from some other exposure. Feel free to get tested at 6 and 12 weeks if you like.
This thread is over.