Welcome to the forum.
The chance of catching HIV from this sort of event was zero for all practical purposes. It is the rare Las Vegas stripper or commercial sex worker who has HIV; and even with unprotected vaginal sex that lasts several minutes, the average transmission rate averages once for ever 2,000 events. And that's only if the female partner has HIV. From a medical or risk assessment standpoint this event did not require HIV testing. To your specific questions:
1) Based on the nurse's response, that the test result was "not conclusive", you probably had a standard HIV antibody test, in which case a negative result at 1 month is around 90-95% reliable.
2) New HIV infections do not cause GERD or "chest cold" symptoms.
3) Not only have I never had a patient with such an exposure who turned out to catch HIV, I have never even heard a rumor of such a case. It doesn't happen.
4) Certainly some strippers have high rates of all STDs. I have no way of predicting for this particular person. Whether or not she has HIV probably doesn't materially change the odds of having an STD. However, just as for HIV, the risk of transmission of any STD from this sort of exposure is exceedingly low, probably zero.
I hope this helps. Best wishes-- HHH, MD
Thanks Dr., I appreciate your prompt response!
Best wishes to you and your family!
Hi Dr. quick follow up question dating from this experience on Nov. 11. I still have that subtle rash near my left nostril. It is very slight with a couple of bumps and seems to come and go from time to time. No blistering or discomfort. Anything STD related about this? (only concern would be herpes). What symptoms should I have had if was exposed to herpes? What are the odds of transmission from this single event? Thank you!
Almost certainly it isn't herpes. If it is herpes, it was not sexually acquired; oral area herpes is not considered an STD. See a health care provider if you remain concerned. That's the end of this thread.