Thanks for the kind words. I'll go straight to your questions.
1) Including mild cases, 80-90% of people with initial HIV infection develop symptoms, called acute retroviral syndrome (ARS). About half have fairly prominent symptoms. ARS symptoms typically last 2-4 weeks, then most people have no symptoms until they get symptoms of health problems due to immune deficiency--anywhere from 1 to 10 years later, sometimes longer.
2) There are no clear data (at least none that I know) on the risk of HIV transmission with and without ejaculation. Common sense says the risk should be higher with deposition of semen inside the vagina or rectum (and perhaps mouth), so many experts just say it's more risky. But at a scientific level, it is not known for sure.
3) I am unaware of data that ARS symptoms ever clear up in less than several days; certainly never overnight.
4) Fever is almost always present; its absence is strong evidence against ARS as a cause of a person's symptoms. True chills cannot occur without fever; chills are the result of rapid fluctuations in body temperature in someone with fever. (Just feeling chilly from time to time isn't the same thing. If it is, most of the women I know develop ARS every time they enter a conference room where the guys feel warm!)
5) Sorry, I know nothing about HIV testing options in France. In general, anonymous testing no longer makes sense in most industrialized countries. When so much of the population has been tested anyway (almost half of all Americans have had an HIV test, and I imagine it isn't so different in France), simply being tested or having a negative result rarely results in stigma or prejudice. And if positive, a person must get health care--and anonymous health care for HIV simply isn't possible, except in the super-wealthy who can pay cash without having to invoke health insurance. (But in fairness, I don't know for sure about these issues in Paris or elsewhere in France. And there are exceptions to these rules in many places--small towns, developing countries where being marked as HIV infected can result in abandomnent by a spouse or death by beating, etc.)
Best wishes--- HHH, MD
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There probably is always some fluid exchange. At least some pre-ejaculate fluid probably is always present, even if not seen or noticed.
Still, your reasoning makes sense; certainly there is a quantitative difference in fluid exposure. Nevertheless, there are no data to show whether or not there is a difference in transmission efficiency with and without ejaculation.
HHH, MD
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i have been married for 14 years i got drunk 8mths ago, met a business man, foolishly allowed him to my hotel room and we started to have sex - no condoms, after about 5 mins i came to my senses, no ejaculation happend, and penetration was only for about 5 mins, i have never done anything like this in the whole time i have been with my husband, and the guilt, shame and disgust has almost made me think of suicide, i have no idea on sex history of this gentleman i threw his business card away, the thing is i am now pregnant with my husbands baby, i have just found out i need a hiv test, i have never had any diseases that i know of, i have never told my husband, and now i am almost convinced i have hiv, believe me there have been no signs or anything, but i have also read there are no signs if you contract hiv, what are my risks of catching hiv, as instead of being so happy because i am pregnant, i am unhappy, terrified, i am finding it hard to sleep, and feel so completely devasted for my disgusting actions..
my mind is out of control and i literally play the phone call of the doctors telling me i have hiv, i go for my test this week, - please help me out with some information and your thoughts.. thanks so much ....
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Dr. H,
What's your idea of mild symptoms?
If one were to get a fever that lasted only one day/overnight, I would think that would mean it was some kind of mild self-limiting infection. But an ARS fever, if it hits, would sustain itself for 5+ days, at the very least, it seems.
By the way, Dr. Bob says that if a man came to him with a fever/flu-like illness after having unprotected vaginal sex, he would assume that it was a virus, but most likely not HIV (knowing that the man did indeed have unprotected sex -- he cites the 5 in 10,000 exposures statistic). Do you agree with that?
You seem to be asking alot about symptoms. Dr. H will tell you and has told many people on this forum that symptoms no matter what they are cannot be used for or against HIV. From what I do understand there are many many viruses that have the same symptoms as ARS and unless you had a high risk exposure (ie unprotected anal with a hiv poz person)any sort of symptoms are most likely caused by some other virus. If you had a very low/no risk exposure( i.e kissing/ recieving oral sex) then any sort of symptoms afterwards would just be a coincidence and ARS would not even be considered.
For your second question; how can HIV be passed if no fluid (pre-ejaculation included) is passed? It is not possible.