OK, here's the story.
I am a 38-year old hetero male, and stupidly visited a prostitute in NYC (Japanese girl) on 10/3. I only had vaginal sex (protected). But before putting on the condom, my penis tip rubbed against her anus and vagina, then she rolled on a condom, which i PRESUME to be LATEX. She then applied lube, which I PRESUME to be waterbased. (It wasn't vaseline, i know). Intercourse lasted 45 secs. i withdrew with the condom intact. I wiped the fluids off myself with a tissue she provided.
The next day i had penis pain and burning diffuse pain in my right groin. No burning on urination. This sole symptom lasted about 2-3 weeks. At 5 weeks, I had a brief low fever for a night, with aches, followed by a couple weeks of just feeling lousy and almost chilled (no fever). At 8 weeks, i had what i believe to be a stomach flu, which was 1 night of intense vomiting, followed by 2 weeks or so of feeling lousy and not eating. ANd a dry cough too. I noticed pain in my upper abdomen, which i felt might be my spleen and liver. (i had mono as a teen, so i remembered that kind of pain) (My wife and kids got that flu a week later) At that time I noticed some glands in my neck, armpit and groin began to ache, not particularly swell, but tender to the touch. These nodes have lasted to date, but have been tapering off in severity of pain. At this time (13 weeks), i still have some minimal node pain in my neck, armpits, even behind my knees & around my lower right groin (that same diffuse, burning pain), which actually hurts more when I sit, and not at all when i stand. I also have a node in the middle of my back right near my spine just below shoulder blade level that is sore and bothers me.
I am a nervous wreck, and fear for myself, my wife and my kids.
1) what are your thoughts about the risks during the sex act? the rubbing issue? (could the virus get into my meatus? and/or get trapped on my penis when she rolled the condom on?) the latex(?) issue? (do SW's ever use lambskin?) the lube(?) issue? (was it long enough to create permeability in the latex?)
2) what are your thoughts about the nature of my symptoms? are they ARS-like? The nodes are most disconcerting, given they are generalized. no major swelling, but noticable and tender! what about the timing and onset of them all?
I called several hotlines and all said testing wasnt warranted? do you concur?
I know my stress can excaserbate and/or manifest symptoms, but I believe you cant dream up lymph symptoms, right?
Please give me some guidance as I am truly depressed and cannot function properly given my fear and guilt!
Thank YOU SO MUch.