Sorry, meant to post here, so nervous-
Joggen, Vance, Teak, Lizzie:
I'm freaking out. Three weeks post exposure described above - had cold/sick symptoms, light fever with sweats, sinusitis and laryngitis, all perfect ars timing, and followed by this buring urination on the tip and slight clear discharge. Have had UTI in past and was wearing lots of used tight underwear due to location, situation. Thought it was that at the time.
Problems are: my exposure had lots of intense unprotected oral from CSW 20 mins, high risk low income girl in South America, had protected vaginal 20 mins with dry and thin brand condom, but she was wet so didn't feel any issues at time, condom slipped half way, head still covered and re-adjusted it, used saliva inside condom but dryness caused chaffing on shaft close to head- noticed small scab later that night. Did not notice any condom breakage on removal. Also had vigerous masturbation w vaginal fluid after removal.
Four months post my exposure, girlfriend also had bad flu/fever/cold. Was honest w her at time of exposure and we had continued sex unprotected, both aware of the issue. We had worked it out. We both took antibiotics at the time and forgot about it due to "no risk" that we assumed. We are adventurous and no strangers to this, thought we were clear.
Now my mind is killing me after she got sick with bad flu, high fever for days, sinusitis and phlemmy cough, cleared w antibiotics but lingered.
I've become terrified she got something from me, since we never got tested.
Teak says no risk, but this instance and symptoms seem too precise.
Paranoid about condom holes and leakage I might not have noticed due to the dry thin latex used (trojan brand), I think the lube had leaked out of the packaging which is also a bit thin. Also had vigerous masturbation w vaginal fluid after removal, possibly rubbed fluid into abrasion.
How could I have gotten the burn and all these symptoms with perfect ARS timing, I used protection! Just the oral risk? Timing of all this has me freaked beyond belief, in a constant panic. I remember being so careful during that exposure.
Totally freaked, obsessed, guilty, life on pause. Already in therapy, was also told very small or no risk, but I'm convinced I have got it. Freaking her out now too.
Spoke to csw a few times, she "guarantees" she's ok, and claims she donated blood but lost confirmation papers.
Panicing, anxiety off the charts, going for big test, any advice, hard truths or engouragement welcome.
-MP