i am so upset with my brother and don't know what to do. what i feel like doing is calling him and say F**K YOU! but what is that going to accomplish? maybe i should try and educate him...but then i feel like he should be reaching out to me...his sister...and asking me to help him better understand. how can someone 53 years old be so stupid? my son and i are the ones who need the support so why should i go to him? if he cared about us and our feelings, wouldn't he come to me? i don't know...i'm just venting because i am so mad.
i hope everyone enjoys their holiday weekend and remembers WHY we celebrate Easter. i hope that you are able to spend time with your family without all the ignorance that surrounds this disease.
wishing you happiness,
kim
Hello again- I posted a comment to a post you had made earlier in the week about your sons diagnosis..hope you read it, anyway just read this post about your brother not attending Easter... all I can say is that I am sorry to hear of his decision to not attend. I know this is easier said than done- but try not to ake this personal- I truely believe it's the fear of the unkown that makes people freak out and make stupid- un-educated choices like your brother- I did love your comment about him having sex with him- that was funny... Again I know your emotions are going crazy right now- and I feel for you- hang in there sweetie (hope you don't mind me calling you sweetie-LOL) as for your comment about you not reaching out to them is correct- they should be reaching out to you- their fear is NOTHING compared to the fear you must feel- Try to take your anger towards them and turn it into something positive- Don't know if there are support groups for parents of HIV positive children in your area but that may be something you want to look into... TRUST me when I say the emotional rollercoaster does get better- it really does I swear- I mean I can't say that I know exactly what you are going through as a parent, but it will get better- like ANY disease that is newly diagnosed it is overwhelming- I think what makes being HIV+ diagnosed worse is the stigma that is associated with it. It's your brothers loss- he and his family will miss Easter dinner and if this is his attitude then he will miss every holiday- sucks for him- stay strong, keep your chin up, and enjoy your Easter..
-J. from Long Island