HELP!Doctor withheld positive diagnosis for a year, what can we do?

[raquelagogo]

My boyfriend had an hiv test done over a year ago. The doctors office told him they would call him with the results when they came in. They never called and unfortunately he thought he had nothing to worry about, that it came back negative because if it hadn't he thought they would have definately called. He has seen the same doctor a plethera of times over the past year for simple things like asthma,  chest cold, and other small things but nobody ever mentioned to him anything about having hiv. Recently he went in for hemorrhoids, the doctor referred him to a specialist because he also had a case of anal warts that the doctor was going to treat. Today he went in for his consultation with the specialist, as he read through his file he casually said to him, so i see your hiv positive and you have hep C. My boyfriend freaked, this is the first time he has ever heard anything like this. He called me right away so upsethe was threatening suicide. We've been having unprotected sex for almost 9 months and if this is all true then theres a 90% chance i have it as well. I have not been tested in almost a year in a half. I've instructed him to have another test done and i immediately made an appointment for a couple days from now to have my tests done. If we hadn't been together for this long he may of infected many many other people because of mportant life ir death information withheld from him by his doctors office. If we are both infected is there anything we can do legally to the doctor for keeping two, not one deadly disease, but two from his knowledge? Because of this my bf has lived a year in the dark and is now bringing me down the same painful road with him against his will. I love my bf and will never leave him through any part of this, we feel cheated, we're scared we can never have children, like our lives have been ruined because of this kept secret. Is there some similar court case i can refer to. Hiv meds cost lots of money, as do treatments, having children when both parents are hiv positive is possible but are expensive. Sueing the pants off this doctor would help give us money to live and raise the daughter we just got sole custody for and possibly have our own child together. We were planning to conceive later this year.

Help, we're literally lost, i almost foresee him slipping into depression because if this sick surprise.

Devastated on the north shore

[princesspoppy81]

My boyfriend had hep but I didn't get it, he took interferon it made him a bit sick but he's totally fine now.
As for the doctor I'd say you most certainly should have a case, by non disclosure of the results he caused your boyfriend to unknowingly commit a biological assault, its all on the doctor... He has a duty of care to your bf and to the public health. They do have to contact you by law if there is any issues only a neg/clear result means that they don't need to contact you. He put your boyfriends life on the line and for all he knew countless others. I'd take him on hunni the bare minimum he should do is pay for your medical needs, I'd threaten to go to the news papers and stations with your story and emphasize how due to gross negligence he should be struck off! Not that you would or maybe you would I don't know but I'd certainly throw all I had at him, its no less than the creature deserves. Pls let me know how u get on hunni, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and your little family xxxx

[princesspoppy81]

You can have children, I did and my son is neg! There are meds u take that 99.9% prevents HIV cross over. HIV is not what it was its classified now as a long term manageable condition, I have been poz 10 years now, and my counts have been untraceable for a while.
I'd advise going to a meet up for Poz women, it will help you come to terms with it better and you can get first hand info and perhaps make a friend. I couldn't even say the words at first, took 3 yes to tell my mum and dad, and I've only just started telling friends, ten years later.