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1 Month after unprotected sex, respiratory virus for 6 months

Hi there,

I'm really concerned about my physical health and my mental health hasn't been great recently either, just trying to stay calm.

I had unprotected sex 3 times with a girl I was dating for a short period of time, this included unprotected vaginal and oral sex - I was very naive, she was my first sexual partner and when we began dating I would always wear protection, but she warped my personality quite a bit and I lost it. She was aware about being safe with condoms but I believe she's had a few partners and I found out she had recently had unprotected sex with her ex.

It was February this year we had unprotected sex. We broke up beginning of march and I was left with thrush of the penis however at this point I didn't know what it was and carried on, no symtoms. I also noticed two raised bumps on the head of the penis. At the end of march I went on a night out had a lot to drink and ended up making out with a chinese girl drunk.

Almost the next day I began coughing, this lasted a month and it was pretty severe causing pain in lower right abdomen, I also had 2-3 bouts of severe flu. I was concerned so I decided to check up on my sexual health, I did a gonorrhea, chlamydia test, both negative. I also began treating the thrush mid march, i've been treating it ever since (seems to be taking ages to clear up). Eventually the cough calmed down and I started getting a really nasty sorethroat and a swollen lymph node in the right side of my neck this lasted for a month and we attempted to treat it with penicillin, this had no effect whatsoever. I also noticed I had a very inflamed throat and white tongue which I still have to this day. I also had lower right back pains and still have this now however it hasn't been as a bad recently.

After that I had muscle aches, fatigue, sore throat and a cough that would come and go. It has been six months now and the cough and sorethroat is nonexistent, i've just been left with the white tongue, slightly red raised bumps at back of throat and the lower right back pain.

Over these 6 months I have had a full blood count, liver function test, tests for glandular fever and HIV (tested at around 4 months), Syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, swab tests of the penis and throat. I've also had multiple urine tests in case of kidney infection but it seems to be fine. Everything so far has come back negative and has been normal which is great. I also tested the girl for HIV and chlamydia and she said she came back negative. I am about to have an ENT soon and a scan of the lower right back.

So i'm left here scratching my head still worried about what happened - fungal overgrowth? different strain of glandular fever? I'm still terrified of HIV and just want answers to what has happened to my body. I believe it is a virus but the timing of it hasn't been good.

So,

February - Unprotected sex and oral
March - Kissed girl on night out, untreated thrush (don't know if that means anything)
April - Nasty cough, 2-3 bouts of severe flu
May - Cough comes and goes, Swollen lymph node in right side of neck, sore throat and lower right back pain
June - Lymph node settles down, sorethroat, cough and lower right back pain still there, fatigue and muscle aches kick in
July - Still have fatigue and muscle aches, sore throat, cough pretty much gone
August - Recovering from fatigue and muscle aches, sore throat and lower right back pain still present
September - Recovering from sore throat, left with lower right back pain, tingling in left hip for a week, (stress no doubt!)

My biggest fear is just being undiagnosed, and was wondering if I've missed anything. I also was wondering how long it would take to clear thrush. I also had two large bumps down there but they both disappeared, around about july I had a large bump on the shaft but has got smaller since then. I understand stress maybe be a factor but it's been a nasty respiratory virus and a not very nice 6 months!

Sorry for the essay, just trying to get as much info in as possible.

Thankyou,

Gohan89
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hi I agree about mystery virus did you find out whats going on there .......
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I apologize for the late response back, but a negative results at 4 months and the person in question of giving you HIV tested negative, rest assure you are HIV negative and you have nothing to worry about.  If you continue to feel sick, then you need to consult your Primary Care Physcian because you may have another illness.  We all make mistakes, so try to learn from this incident and use condoms at all time.
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You already have a conclusive result--there is no need to test further.
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Hi Chelsey,

I've already done the antibody test at 4 months and the result was negative, would that be sufficient? The girl also had a test and she was negative too.

Thanks,

Gohan89
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You already have a conclusive result--move on please
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You can get an HIV PCR test done or a Antigen test and can conclusive results now, you DO NOT have to wait 3 months only if your doing an antibody test.
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Hi there,

I tested at 4 months, so i'm sure HIV is out of the question, I still worry about it, still puzzled as to what this virus is though.

Thanks for replying,

Gohan89
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3 months is when an antibody test can be done for a conclusive result.
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