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Asked with anxiety, is oral sex (MSM) a risk?

I’d like to briefly introduce my situation— I’m a gay man, attending college, from China. About 3 and 4 months ago, I performed oral sex with my boyfriend (now he’s an ‘ex-’) , no deepthroat, only to taste his precum; and then I spat it out: there were totally 3 times in this activity, without others (anal, I mean). Secondly, from the very beginning I had asked, or inquired about his condition, and I was given all the same response — that he was negative — and I was actually unconvinced. And the very point which triggers my anxiety is that before we met I had ever accepted root canal therapy but the filling stuff is broken, not complete now.

Therefore my question is that, a) do I need a test?
b) for the peers sharing my situation, will this factor increase the rate of infection?

I’d appreciate it if you can omit my poor expression and give me an answer.
Again, many thanks.
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Additionally, all unprotected.
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No risk unprotected oral is zero risk for hiv.
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Will the conclusion remain unchanged if there is dental disease like periodontal disease? I’m sorry for my probing.
And...... Many thanks for your reply.
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And...... What has added to my paranoia is that doctors (Who knows their qualifications!) here in China persist that unprotected oral sex is A RISK and they claim that they have ever met the patient exactly infected this way.
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It's unfortunate that doctors in your area state it is a true risk.  It is a theoretical risk. This means it's never happened.  With it never having happened in all this time that HIV has been a known disease which is many many years, it is not considered a risk by HIV experts around the world.  Saliva has enzymes in it that inactivate the virus.  I wouldn't be worried at all about your encounter.  Not to mention, you say it was with a boyfriend?  So, someone you knew?  Whether he is an ex or not, it is supremely doubtful he has HIV.  This was not in any way an encounter in which HIV is a possibility.  No risk
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Now I feel a lot more reassured. Thank you GuitarRox and the bro above.
I'm glad to hear it.  Glad I helped.
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As a feedback:
Recently I’m googling; here in China’s social media, I don’t know why there are lots of people state (or concoct) that they’re infected by oral alone, most of whom are gays(consider the pervasively externalized and internalized homophobia here); the one I read even said his case was due to receptive oral sex!) ...... which stirs up the paranoid. Some volunteers said all membranes are the same......and oral therefore is a risk...... that’s quite misleading. Also I have read the posts here sent by my Chinese peers — they are still over-anxious despite the fact — and thanks to the toxic media and websites — some of which even say that barber’s tools can be infective and the virus can survive at least 3 days...... That’s nasty.  Also lots of criticisms against this forum are seen — they are conservative and they call here ‘radical’!
I need to translate something into Chinese for those who had ever suffered like me before
Again thanks.
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Inaccurate.  There are no documented cases of HIV through oral sex.  Not a single PROVEN documented cased.  So, quit reading rubbish on the internet.  Doctors do not feel HIV is a risk for HIV and you aren't going to be the first person ever who has HIV from oral.  No risk.
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