Can I catch HIV from oral, kissing and rimming if blood is present? Very Paranoid

[n3draw]

I am a man, on 06/15/2018, I went to a massage parlor. The woman there served me about 1 hour and 20 minutes.

1. She rimmed me about 30 seconds then I told her to stop, I know that oral-anal sex is considered very low risk, but the thing is earlier in the day, I had noticed some specks of blood on the toilet paper I had used after washing my anus after I used the toilet. Does this increase the risk of infection? And because I don't know the oral health status of the woman, if she had bleeding gums, will this increase the chance of infection considering there is at least one cut on my anus according to the specks of blood on the toilet paper? I don't know if she insert her lips or tongue into my anus(I can't remember very clear), will this behavior increase the risk?

2. She gave me a fellatio about 30 seconds then I told her to stop(I didn't ejaculate in her mouth). According to other posts in the forum, it seems that the risk of receiving oral sex is also considered a very low risk behavior, but on the CDC website, it says that bleeding gums or other open cuts and sores in the mouth can increase risk of infection. Is this a risky behavior?

3. At the end of her service, I kissed her about 10 seconds, it was an open mouth kiss but not deep. But I didn't have a very good oral health status at that time, after about 30 minutes when I was brushing me teeth, I saw my gums are bleeding, I won't say that it is very serious to confuse you, but I did see my gum is bleeding and there is blood in my mouth. Will this increase the chance of infection?

My Status: I broke up with my last girlfriend in 2016, I have been sexual inactive from 2016 until the day I received the service.

I am not a native speaker of English, so if any of my description sounds offensive or uncomfortable, I am sorry and you can point out.

Finally, I would really appreciate your answers on my situation, I have checked many posts on the forums, I think you guys are doing a really great job to spread the knowledge of HIV. Thank you!

[Shnider223]

No risk at all test hiv is not recommended

[Chima7]

Wikipedia is not a reliable resource for true information because anyone with access to the internet can modify the information posted there. No one reviews or checks the information for accuracy or truthfulness. Therefore I would always question the information that is gathered from Wikipedia.

[AnxiousNoMore]

You had no risk so a test would be a waste of time.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
Not sure how you read many posts on this forum but falsely claim that oral is low risk. You did not have penetrating anal sex either. She is the last person I would kiss because she likely has every flu going around from all the other guys she kisses, so be happy that you got off lucky this time.

[AnxiousNoMore]

The CDC is so conservative that they use theoretical risks that have never manifested in 40 years, so that is a silly idea to think the risk "increases".

[n3draw]

Hi, thanks for your reply.

I get some possibilities from wikipedia
Blood transfusion 90%
Childbirth (to child) 25%
Needle-sharing injection drug use 0.67%
Percutaneous needle stick 0.30%
Receptive anal intercourse* 0.04–3.0%
Insertive anal intercourse* 0.03%
Receptive penile-vaginal intercourse* 0.05–0.30%
Insertive penile-vaginal intercourse* 0.01–0.38%
Receptive oral intercourse*§ 0–0.04%
Insertive oral intercourse*§ 0–0.005%-

But I think I have read some posts in the forum say that there is never one case transmission case reported through receiving oral sex, I think there is some inconsistencies here and I don't know the reason.

Another question is that if HIV virus is inactivated when exposes to air immediately, can it be reactivated when it meets blood?

Final question, I don't get the meaning of this sentence in your reply:
. She is the last person I would kiss because she likely has every flu going around from all the other guys she kisses, so be happy that you got off lucky this time.

Can you illustrate this sentence?(Sorry I am not a native speaker, this sentence is pretty hard for me to understand)

Thanks.

[laxus2012]

he's saying if anything,  you would be more at risk from a flu or cold than anything. you're sexual activities were zero risk and your much more likely to get a virus from kissing someone since she most likely kisses a ton of strangers daily.

[n3draw]

Thanks for your reply! When you are saying virus, you mean cold virus and flu virus, not HIV virus, right?

[AnxiousNoMore]

Let's make this simple. Which of the only 3 do you think was your HIV risk? Because if you are worried about something else then you are just making up your own science so it won't be possible to have a logical discussion about science fiction.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Let's make this simple. Which of the only 3 do you think was your HIV risk? Because if you are worried about something else then you are just making up your own science so it won't be possible to have a logical discussion about science fiction.

[laxus2012]

yes, i do mean cold ,flu or other viruses from kissing. AnxiousNoMore told you how HIV is transmitted, and kissing was not on there, of course I did not mean the HIV virus.

[n3draw]

Thanks! I have a final question, I have read somewhere on the Internet says that if the HIV-positive people have other STIs, this will increase the chance of transmitting HIV. In my case, if the lady got other STIs, is it still no risk or the risk will increase?

Thanks.

[laxus2012]

we have answered you more than once already, advised your encounter was not a risk, and AnxiousNoMore told you the ways you can catch it. stop searching the Internet for stuff.  YOU DON'T HAVE IT! if you keep obsessing, seek mental help.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Since  you couldn't find one of the 3, that means you are making up your own science and it is not possible to have a logical discussion with that kind of nonsense idea.

[n3draw]

Ok, thanks.  My understanding is it is little to zero risk if I don't have one of the 3 behaviors you mentioned no matter what details(blood, cuts, wound, bleeding status) I add, is that correct?

[laxus2012]

you've already been answered throughly more than once, please re-read the original answer from AnxiousNoMore and move on. you have all you info you need, and should stop asking about this encounter.