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Can you get HIV from condom protected sex?

Hello, I'm extremely worried and have a question. Please bare with me as english isn't my first language.
I had unprotected oral insertive sex for about 3 minutes and protected vaginal sex for about 5 minutes with a woman whose status I'm not sure of about 4 weeks ago. She gave me a condom and after ejaculating I kept thrusting for another 10-12 seconds. After sex while taking the condom off I noticed that there was blood on the  condom and near the base of my groin. She told me that she has endometriosis and sometimes bleeds during sex. I was distraught after seeing the blood and started to panic but tried to remain calm and told myself that I used protection. I carefully took the condom off, washed my hands and put my clothes on and went home. I did not wash my penis when I got home however, I went to sleep. My questions are as follows: 1) Assuming she was HIV+ would I be at risk of becoming infected? 2) I waited until I was somewhat flaccid to remove the condom and that's when I noticed the blood on it and the base of my penis, would that increase my risk for HIV? 3) from what I can remember when taking off the condom it was hanging down with my semen in the tip but could there be little tears or a hole in the side of the condom that I didn't see since I was upset at the sight of the blood? Or would it be very obvious it failed despite me being upset at the sight of blood? I didn't test the condom with water after taking it off. Should I have tested it?  4) she said it was a latex condom and it felt like one but would i know if it was lambskin, would I be able to tell the difference? 5) I had a hair bump on my groin area and I'm assuming some of the blood might have come into to contact with it, is this a risk? And finally when showering the next day I noticed a little bit of blood in my underwear and wanted to know is this a big risk that could also transmit HIV to me?  Unfortunately I didn't take PEP and now I'm sad and frightened that I didn't
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As stated, you had no risk. ONLY the head of your penis needs to be covered by a condom during intercourse.  Blood that somehow got on you and on your underwear would be exposed to air and would not transmit the virus.  Latex condoms were likely used. Lambskin condoms are more expensive and protect a bit less so noone interested in protecting themselves from std's would use them.  I'm sure you used a plain old latex condom.  
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  ( lips, body, mouth, saliva etc.). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe.
If a condom fails it is a large rip down the seam and hangs in tatters making it hard to take off so that didn't happen and it would have been a waste of time testing a condom. You are lucky that you didn't take PEP and should move on.
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Thank you very much. Two more questions then I will leave this alone. Having blood in my underwear and probably on my testicles from that night until I showered in the morning was no concern right and condoms always rip when failing? Rip in a way that can’t be missed? Do lamb skin condoms look, smell or feel different ? She said they were latex  but I think anxiety may be getting the better of me and I’m paranoid maybe.  Thank you for answering my questions. I appreciate you taking the time to do so. Thank very much
Reread about 3 and dead, then realize it is time to move on instead of more of the same questions. She told you it was latex but if you don't believe her take a duo test after 4 weeks.
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