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Chances of HIV with a male Danish partner?
Hey everyone, I know this is going to sound crazy, but I need to do this for my mental health.
I had been in an exclusive relationship with someone I met in Denmark while I was studying abroad. He came to visit me in the US 3 weeks ago. We were having protected vaginal sex when the condom broke. I realized we had never talked about STDs or anything because we had been using condoms. When I asked about his HIV status, he said that he tested negative in December, but he had 2 unprotected vaginal intercourse incidents after that, before he met me. I have horrible anxiety, so I began to panic. He said I needed to relax because HIV rates in Denmark are low and that he was confident he was not affected by the virus. After having a mental breakdown, he agreed to do an Oraquick Oral swab. The results were negative. I have been having trouble trusting these results because I left him at home while I ran to CVS to buy the test. He said he did not eat or drink while I was gone and that it had definitely been at least 30 minutes since he had anything to eat/drink. 3 weeks after the incident I am still paranoid. He is back in Denmark now, and our relationship has ended in part because of my horrific anxiety. I have been begging him to take a blood test at a clinic. He said he would do so soon, but I do not know when that will be.
Maybe I am being ridiculous about this whole thing. It has gotten to the point where I have been coming up with my own theories with him purposefully brushing his teeth or eating before i came home to produce a negative result. I'm just being unreasonable.
Summed up info: 1 time heterosexual vaginal penetration exposure receptive. Me: white female low 20's, Him: white male mid 20's from Denmark.
1. Can I trust the Oraquick oral test?
2. Is my risk low?
I know I have a mental health issue, and I am planning on seeking help for it. I just need someone with a clearer head than me to assess my risk.
I had been in an exclusive relationship with someone I met in Denmark while I was studying abroad. He came to visit me in the US 3 weeks ago. We were having protected vaginal sex when the condom broke. I realized we had never talked about STDs or anything because we had been using condoms. When I asked about his HIV status, he said that he tested negative in December, but he had 2 unprotected vaginal intercourse incidents after that, before he met me. I have horrible anxiety, so I began to panic. He said I needed to relax because HIV rates in Denmark are low and that he was confident he was not affected by the virus. After having a mental breakdown, he agreed to do an Oraquick Oral swab. The results were negative. I have been having trouble trusting these results because I left him at home while I ran to CVS to buy the test. He said he did not eat or drink while I was gone and that it had definitely been at least 30 minutes since he had anything to eat/drink. 3 weeks after the incident I am still paranoid. He is back in Denmark now, and our relationship has ended in part because of my horrific anxiety. I have been begging him to take a blood test at a clinic. He said he would do so soon, but I do not know when that will be.
Maybe I am being ridiculous about this whole thing. It has gotten to the point where I have been coming up with my own theories with him purposefully brushing his teeth or eating before i came home to produce a negative result. I'm just being unreasonable.
Summed up info: 1 time heterosexual vaginal penetration exposure receptive. Me: white female low 20's, Him: white male mid 20's from Denmark.
1. Can I trust the Oraquick oral test?
2. Is my risk low?
I know I have a mental health issue, and I am planning on seeking help for it. I just need someone with a clearer head than me to assess my risk.
I think it best NOT to wait for the ex-boyfriend to test since your anxiety level is already maxed out. I know you're worried but the best thing for you to do is be pro-active in your own healthcare. You shared concerns that while you went and purchased the OraQuick test kit, he may or may not have eaten or drunk anything. The instructions in the kit MUST be followed to the letter or the results can be affected. If there are trust issues, I repeat, don't wait for HIM.........take care of yourself!
Go to a reliable clinic and have the 4th generation DUO test.
The OraQuick test is "accurate" at 3 weeks post exposure and is unlikely to change, but it is not conclusive.........the DUO test at 28 days will be.
Go to a reliable clinic and have the 4th generation DUO test.
The OraQuick test is "accurate" at 3 weeks post exposure and is unlikely to change, but it is not conclusive.........the DUO test at 28 days will be.
Yeah, I was planning on definitely testing soon if my partner does not get the blood test.
Should I not trust the OraQuick?
Should I not trust the OraQuick?
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