Concern but not panic HIV risks

[dan450]

Basically, I have not really worried about HIV risk based on my exposures. They are limited to masturbation with other guys, licking nipples, rubbing penises together, and occasional fingering. There are times I had their semen on my hand, and maybe a cut cuticle, but not actively bleeding. I have not had vaginal or anal sex out side of my marriage, and do not use needles. I used to give and receive oral sex with other guys, but the last time was more than 5 years ago, and never ejaculation in mouth. I also always ask if they have any std's first, but have to trust they are being honest. I limit my activity to be sure I am safe and responsible, that's why I don't usually worry about HIV.

I had an HIV test about 10 years ago and it was negative. I also donated blood once at a blood drive at work 7 years ago, and there were no issues. The reason I donated blood was to help, not to get tested and I really had no concerns about HIV because I believed I was having safe sex. So I know I am HIV negative as of 2007. Since then, I have only had oral sex a few times, and then just the exposures I described above.

I am concerned because I noticed i have a white area on the back area of my tongue a few days ago. I googled white tongue to see what it could be, and a lot of HIV stuff comes up. I also had a cut on my cheek that didn't hurt several months ago, and it is still thee a little bit. No pain or anything, but it is there. Also, sometimes, I feel like I am really hot and clammy, but no fever.

Should I be worried about HIV? I hav been stressing out lately, and deep down, I keep telling myslef I have been safe and responsible. Can you help?

[Vance2335]

Reread what I have already written.

[dan450]

I finally built up the courage and did the Oraquick this afternoon. It was negative. I assume this is trustworthy, or are have you heard of false negatives?

Anyway, thank you

[dan450]

Is there an appropriate place in Medhelp to help me with my anxiety? At this point, my life sucks and I just spend my days and nights worried that I may have HIV. Deep down, I don't think I do, because I didn't really do anything, and you agreed with me, but when I think I feel a symptom, I panic. Sorry to bother you with this.....

[Vance2335]

Do what you want but you had no risk.

[dan450]

I really never worries about HIV risk until a few weeks ago when I saw a white area on my tongue. Some days it is a little more white, other days, very little. Seems to be consuming me now to the point that I panic all the time now. Feel like my tongue has a hot spot.

I have not had anal or vaginal sex, outside of my marriage, and no oral sex in over 5 years, outside of my marriage. I tested HIV negative in 2000, and donated blood in 2007, and was never contacted. So since 2007, only had oral sex 2 or 3 times, and just semen on hand, once on chest, once had finger in my anus, rub penises together.

I am thinking about taking Oraquick to try and get my life back again. Is it acurate?

Please help me, I am in a panic and I want to live again.

Thank you!!

[dan450]

Vance, Teak or Lizzie

I read the forum a lot and get good information. I think my risks were minimal, and Vance agreed their we no risks. I do find myself getting increasingly nervous anyway. The white on my tongue went away, but now I feel like i am always very hot or very cold. I want to move on from this right away.

Dr H said no penis in rectum or vagina means no risk. I didn't have my penis in a rectum or vagina, so that means I had no risk, even though I did other things that are considered safe? Semen on my hand, with a healing cut, or a finger in my anus or rubbing penis' together do not pose an HIV risk ever?

I am ready to move on, and I appreciate your help

[dan450]

I keep reading about white tongue and virtually all sites say it could be HIV, which is making me nervous. But, I haven't actually had sex (anal or vaginal) so I shouldn't have HIV. The other things I did should not be HIV risks based on everything I read on Medhelp. Starting to get nervous. Am I over reacting? Does anything I describe make you think it was an HIV risk at all?

[dan450]

Thanks..Like I said, I really take precautions and care to be sure the behavior is safe, but when I read about HIV and white tongue, I got really nervous. Also, from everything I have read on medhelp from you and Teak and the Dr's, make me feel better because you are clear that only vaginal, anal sex or needles cause risks that leads to HIV.

Thanks!

[Vance2335]

I see no risks.