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Experience with TS Escort - need some advice/thoughts

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I guess I'm one of those that is experiencing the early stages of worry. After a few too many cocktails, I engaged in a sexual encounter with a TS Escort in Canada last week.

Facts are - brief unprotected oral (both receptive/insertive - 3/4 minutes?). Protected Anal, usage of lube (receptive) rather brief (maybe 8 minutes?), no ejaculation from the insertive partner. Condom looked to be in-tact following the experience. After mine, I proceeded to leave

My bum still seems to be a bit sore, 4-5 days out, but I figured that's probably the norm, as this was a first time experience and she was slightly large.

Curious to know thoughts on risk. Everything I seem to read is assuring, that the risk is relatively low. She mentioned that she is clean, and never participates in unprotected anal sex. So I think that certainly helps the risk

Wanted to gather the opinion of the field, thoughts on what risk looks like and if testing is worth it.

Have a steady partner on the home front, but nothing official/not married. Generally go for unprotected sex with her.

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This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
If condom fails it is a large rip down the seam and it hangs in tatters so close inspection is not needed.
You seem to be worried about a lot of irrelevant issues like sore bum, so try to stick to the relevant hiv facts and it is easier to move on.
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Oral sex is not a risk. Condoms are effective, they protect from transmission of HIV.

You didn't posses a risk from this incident, testing won't be recommended.
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