Hello greetings to everyone in this community, I have several doubts about HIV transmission, for almost 3 years I have been distressed by a situation that I will describe in steps:
1 I am a heterosexual guy, I had sex with a girl I met on Badoo on July 17, 2019, I was a virgin before that, I was 32 years old at the time, it was me who asked her to do it we had talked a few months ago and she said she liked it so we met that day.
2 we met in a motel that day, we had oral sex, she to me without protection and I to her without protection, but the vaginal sex was with protection we used 2 condoms, not at the same time, one first, we rested and the other after, they were 2 rounds, the condoms never broke but I ejaculated 2 times in each one, (I am one of those who do not lose erection easily, I know this should not be done, but the condoms always covered the head of my penis and never broke I took them off myself and threw them away).
3 we had planned to be a couple but things didn't work out, she got angry and here comes my fear, in January 2019 she was raped and her phone was stolen she told me a drug addict, then I ask her if she is sick of something, she tells me no, she even shows me her electrochemiluminescence test from a private lab, which was done in April (3 months after assault) negative to HIV 1 and 2 for antibody and antigen and negative to Syphilis, I know the tests can be falsified but she was scary to tell me before sexual intercourse, she insisted she had nothing we got angry and blocked each other.
4 about 3 weeks later (August 2019) my tongue started to burn with no signs of anything, for about 15 days, the truth I have not been tested for anything in 3 years, the pain subsided but some time later I got a geographic tongue like a red spots with white edges that appear in certain places some move others are in the same place at the tip, there are days that dawns well or bad, usually reduced with brushing, 3 years later I still have this symptom, if I put hydrogen peroxide I clean my tongue better, is this a symptom of HIV I've read erythematous candidiasis is an early symptom of hiv, I was very scared.
5 In June 2021 I get diabetes, I am luckily controlled and feel good, I have lost weight with diet exercise and Metformin plus glimeperide and telmisartan, can HIV trigger diabetes more easily?
6 I have read that cunnilingus does not spread HIV, that puts my mind at ease, could it be that by ejaculating 2 times (4 in total) the semen leaked a little to the side and through her vaginal fluids HIV entered?
7 Please don't scold me, I am a lonely person, I have never had a partner and when I could, I had that fear that I still have, so far this year I got sick with covid omicron in January and a cold last month, my defenses are low....
7 I am very anxious and stressed, the doctor told me that my inactivity plus my previous weight (I weighed 118 kg) and diet plus the stress of the pandemic triggered my diabetes.
8 Was I or was I not at risk of contracting HIV, with that one encounter? My tongue was in her vagina 2 minutes or less and the condoms never broke, can I trust her negative result? I am very afraid I don't dare to get tested, I have not had any more sexual encounters since that day, I never did it without a condom.
Greetings and thanks for reading, I need peace of mind.