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First timer woes

Hello i had decided to go to a freelance massuesse to pop my virginity. However my intention to have sex was quickly thrown out the window when i saw the setup of the location and the haste the women had, which made me think of them not being sexually knowledgable or responsible

I decided to just indulge in foreplay. It was done with my underwear on. Through out the session, the lady just kept running her hands up and down my legs and touching my penis through my underwear.

A major alarm bell hit me when she touched herself down there and reached over to touch the head of my penis, through the underwear. I immediately got upset dressed and left

My main worry is, at that point of time, if she  had any vaginal fluids, and touched my penis, was that a risk? Through the underwear and into the urethra?

Another question that i have is, i was pretty wet when i arrived home and proceeded to was up, can the virus go through my underwear, and live in the precum that i produced, there by infecting me?

I apologize if my question had offended any admins that are gonne reply. I shoudnt have tot of breaking my virginity today :(

Will i meed testimg? Is PEP warranted?
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No risk. hiv is dead in air so you have to penetrate a vagina or anus with a penis to be a risk. hiv is not like COvid that lives on surfaces. Forget about this and move on.
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Hello sir and i thank you for the reply. Just a quick check, im more worried about the fluid getting on my underwear and into my uretha.

I did mention about me being soaked with my own precum. Can hiv from another person’s fluid transfer and move using our body fluids?

I apologize for the replies. Ive been trying to find more info but to no results
Anxious answered this already, Health, you did not do the things that cause HIV.  Move on and I would personally suggest, just for your own pleasure, that you lose your virginity to a partner you actually like.  It feels a lot better.  But that's for you to decide.  Peace.
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You are new to the whole sex thing and sex workers.  I understand.  The ONLY ways that you can get HIV are to have had unprotected vaginal or anal sex or to share IV needles to inject drugs.  That's really it. In all the years of HIV being around, that is what the experts know are the actual true risks. Air inactivates the virus. Saliva inactivates the virus. You can't touch a surface and get HIV. Someone's hand can not transmit HIV.  None of that happens. This event was not a risk at all. Buy some condoms of your own, use them if you ever have intercourse. But with this situation, you do not need to worry.
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" you have to penetrate a vagina or anus with a penis to be a risk."
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (hands, maybe saliva, fluids, blood, etc.). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are only 3 ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe.
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Hello again and thanks for the reply. One query tho . I was abit erect when she was touching my penis, a bit of a fear about the fluid getting into the uretha part

According to your post, that woudnt even matter as (if she was infected) the hiv in the fluid on her hand would immediately die as it is exposed to the air correct?

Apologies for the reply, im still abit anxious and feeling guilty that i put myself if such a situation. I thank you again for any replies
You were already answered what the risks are.  Continuing to ask will not change the answers. Risks are 1. unprotected vaginal intercourse. 2. unprotected anal intercourse.  and 3. sharing IV drug needles.  If you did not do one of those three things, you did not have a risk.  Air and saliva inactivate the virus.  Touching a penis will NOT -- repeat -- NOT transmit the virus.  Being anxious and guilty doesn't turn a non risk into a risk.  NO risk.
Instead of trying to give everything that you do in life a review for hiv risk, it is much simpler to review the ONLY 3 from now on to determine if you had a risk. Otherwise you will have lists that are thousands of pages long of what you can safely do and not get hiv.
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