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Foreplay but No Penetration= What are the risks for HIV
Dear Forum Friends,
Here I am once again, it's been quite a while since I posted here.
Anyway, I am faced with another stressful situation here.
2 days ago, I met a guy at a hotel, we talked casually and we ended up in his hotel room. We slept the night through, and in the middle of the night, we ended up making out.
No oral-anal penetration happened. I didn't give him a blow, nor did he. He also did not try to penetrate me, nor did I. But even with this scenario, not happening. A part of me still feels that I've done something "unsafe". :(
Here's what we did and I'd like to know your inputs or if there's anyone here who can shed a light on what my risks are given what we've done throughout the night:
- We kissed. Not deep kissing, just enough to get us going.. You know what I mean. It was part of the whole ordeal.
- It was mostly foreplay really- kissing, hugging, frottage and mutual masturbation.
- The only risky act I think that we did was that I rimmed him (he asked for it) but his *** was clean and shaved. I didnt stay long down there, though.
- We did some grinding though, but no anal-genital contact. It was more of his body on top of mine, and mine on top of his. And our genitals just touching each other.
- Mutual masturbation- I finished him off, and he finished me off. It was just that. No playing with each other's seminal fluids or whatsoever.
To sum it all up, it's more of a foreplay-mutual masturbation kind of thing. I dont know if you can consider what we did as safe sex since anything without a condom to me is kind of unsafe. In my defense though, i didnt find the need to wear a condom at that time since we werent planning on giving oral or anal intercourse to each other.
I'm really at wit's end here because I am scheduled for my yearly HIV test sometime this month and I can't sleep well knowing that something like this is looming. I know I should've thought of what I did before I did it, and I have my entire life to live with that regret.
Also, in line with the testing that I am about to go through this month, given this "unsafe" encounter that I had, should I wait longer or can I push through with my schedule?
All thoughts and opinions are welcome. You guys have got me through the worst of times (sexually).
Here I am once again, it's been quite a while since I posted here.
Anyway, I am faced with another stressful situation here.
2 days ago, I met a guy at a hotel, we talked casually and we ended up in his hotel room. We slept the night through, and in the middle of the night, we ended up making out.
No oral-anal penetration happened. I didn't give him a blow, nor did he. He also did not try to penetrate me, nor did I. But even with this scenario, not happening. A part of me still feels that I've done something "unsafe". :(
Here's what we did and I'd like to know your inputs or if there's anyone here who can shed a light on what my risks are given what we've done throughout the night:
- We kissed. Not deep kissing, just enough to get us going.. You know what I mean. It was part of the whole ordeal.
- It was mostly foreplay really- kissing, hugging, frottage and mutual masturbation.
- The only risky act I think that we did was that I rimmed him (he asked for it) but his *** was clean and shaved. I didnt stay long down there, though.
- We did some grinding though, but no anal-genital contact. It was more of his body on top of mine, and mine on top of his. And our genitals just touching each other.
- Mutual masturbation- I finished him off, and he finished me off. It was just that. No playing with each other's seminal fluids or whatsoever.
To sum it all up, it's more of a foreplay-mutual masturbation kind of thing. I dont know if you can consider what we did as safe sex since anything without a condom to me is kind of unsafe. In my defense though, i didnt find the need to wear a condom at that time since we werent planning on giving oral or anal intercourse to each other.
I'm really at wit's end here because I am scheduled for my yearly HIV test sometime this month and I can't sleep well knowing that something like this is looming. I know I should've thought of what I did before I did it, and I have my entire life to live with that regret.
Also, in line with the testing that I am about to go through this month, given this "unsafe" encounter that I had, should I wait longer or can I push through with my schedule?
All thoughts and opinions are welcome. You guys have got me through the worst of times (sexually).
You had no risk, nor exposure to HIV. HIV is ONLY spread between adults through unprotected anal/vaginal sex. Or, through sharing of IV needles.
Hi guys! Thanks for your comment. Im not really sure how "entry in the blood stream" works. I mean, he came and I did too but just on each other's body. Im assuming there wouldnt be any point of entry into my blood stream if that's the case right?
Anyway, I'm back again because 2 days after this "frottage" encounter, I came down with a flu. Nothing major or serious, just the regular flu. And I kinda got worried about it. Do you think the flu is anything related to this encounter?
It's been 21 days since, and I plan to get a test tomorrow to have at least 95% accuracy on the results.
What do you guys think?
Anyway, I'm back again because 2 days after this "frottage" encounter, I came down with a flu. Nothing major or serious, just the regular flu. And I kinda got worried about it. Do you think the flu is anything related to this encounter?
It's been 21 days since, and I plan to get a test tomorrow to have at least 95% accuracy on the results.
What do you guys think?
Biologically speaking HIV needs to gain direct entry into the bloodstream in sufficient quantities. What you describe is known as 'frottage".
You had no risk.
You had no risk.
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