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Great anxiety!

On January of 2012, I had unprotected sex with a girl.
From January of 2012 to June of 2014, I went to several massage parlours and received oral sex several times ( i am the insertive). Also, I had sex with another girl, 3 times, 1 time unprotected.

From January of 2015 to April of 2015, I had protected sex 4 times with 4 different escorts. All the 4 times, I was really sober, no drunk at all, I am completely aware of everything happening in the room ( the rooms are quiet during sex). All the 4 times, during sex, I didn't hear any sound like "pop" or "boom", the 4 escorts also didn't say anything. After finish, all the 4 times, i withdrew my penis and went to the bathroom, i looked at the condoms very carefully and noticed semen at the tip and threw them to the recycle bin.

3 June 2015, I went to the hospital and the doctors took my blood sample and urine sample to test for STD including HIV and test my urine to see if I did drugs because I got chosen to serve in the military ( military duty for all male citizens above 18 years old and the duration is 4 months). then waiting for 2 weeks, i got accepted and went to a military compound to do my duty. I must add that If you tested positive for anything, they would contact you and you wouldn't serve in the military.

On November 2015, I finished my duty.

From November 2015 to March 2016, I again went to several massage parlours and received oral sex. there were 4 times that I performed oral on 4 different girls ( all those 4 times, my oral hygiene was good, I didn't recall tasting any blood, also no cavities). There was 1 time I had protected sex with an escort and also, didn't notice any sign of broken condom.

Around the middle of March, I went to my favorite masage parlor and requested my favorite girl ( she gave me oral 4 to 5 times with me ejaculating in her mouth), but 2 other girls told me that she quit the job because she had HIV ( they were laughing when told me that, i didn't know if that was real or not). I got scared and went home and try to forget it.

From middle of March till now, I didn't see anything wrong with my health.

My questions are:

1. In the 4 times that I had protected sex with escorts, there was 1 time that I had sex with a Transgender, her vagina is so tight that i couldn't get in in the beginning but finally i got in, but and ejaculated in 1 or 2 minutes, during the time, as i said I was really sober, no drunk at all, I am completely aware of everything happening in the room ( the room is quiet during sex). during sex, I didn't hear any sound like "pop" or "boom", the  Trans  also didn't say anything. After finish, all the 4 times, i withdrew my penis and went to the bathroom, i looked at the condoms very carefully and noticed semen at the tip and threw them to the recycle bin. Is there any chance that the condom got tore but the hole was so small that I couldn't see ?

2. Is there any chance that I and the escorts missed the sound of a broken condom and then I went to the bathroom and still didn't see the holes? ( i was sober and fully aware of anything happening around)

3. What about the oral that I performed on 4 girls in the massage parlours? Can that lead to HIV infection given my oral health was good?

4. What about being the insertive partner? Can that lead to infection? ( I did not know if the girl is positive or not, because other girls told me that)
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Anyone? Please help me!
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That is an epic story, but I will provide a short response. Oral or touching HIV is not a risk, even if both of you have bleeding body parts because HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva.
If a condom fails it is a large rip down the seam and it hangs in tatters so that didn't happen or both of you would know it. Listening for pops or water testing is  not necessary.
Only sex risks are unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, so did you do that? If so a duo test is conclusive 28 days after your activity.
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Thank you for your response. About the unprotected, I got tested before i went to the military, turned out negative so I got acccepted to serve in the military. After I finished my military duty, i only received blowjob and performed cunningligus and one time protected sex. So by what you have given me, do you mean that i am safe and should stop worry?
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Thank you for your response. About the unprotected, I got tested before i went to the military, turned out negative so I got acccepted to serve in the military. After I finished my military duty, i only received blowjob and performed cunningligus and one time protected sex. So by what you have given me, do you mean that i am safe and should stop worry?
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wow, anxiousnomore is right.  This is indeed an epic story of your entire sexual history.  He gave you the right info and I'd re read it.  Oral sex is not a risk.  You had unprotected sex once but that was a while ago and you were tested.  Move on.  Really, move on.  
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