Hi there, I am a healthy 21 year old female, and my husband and I have a 1 year old son together. We both had our yearly physical in the middle of February, so just over a month ago. Both of us came back negative for all STDs, including HIV. I was not worried about that because I believed we were in a monogamous relationship.
Recently, I found e-mails and text messages between my husband and escorts from backpage (so I can only assume these women are not in the "upper echelon" of sex workers...) and there has been contact with at least 15 prostitutes in the last month since we have both been tested. He has asked about oral, vaginal, and anal sex. In the last month, my husband and I have slept together probably four times. Each time we have engaged in unprotected oral and vaginal sex (never anal). Based on his conversations with these women, it appears that only some have required condom use. Clearly I do not know their HIV statuses, or if they are drug users.
My husband and I never use condoms...neither of us like them. I imagine that if he was not made to wear a condom with these other women, he would not. I do not know for sure, though.
It has been about two weeks since my husband and I have had sex, and of course my son and I both have pretty nasty colds. We are both experiencing very dry, hoarse coughs, runny noses, my son has thrown up once, and I have a slightly tender and swollen left lymph node in my neck, with a mild sore throat. I have been staying with my parents (both of whom had colds) so maybe that is where we developed these cold symptoms from. But, I've read so much about ARS symptoms and I'm freaked out now. I am still nursing from time to time, so I know I could have easily passed on HIV to my son if my husband gave it to me...
I have a couple of questions. I know that the only way to confirm my status is to get tested, but I suppose you could say I'm looking for some reassuring statistics while I'm waiting for at least the 6-week mark to test, and then again at 12 weeks past exposure..
1. My husband is circumcised. I read that this could decrease his chance of being infected with HIV if he slept with an HIV+ woman. Is this true? He is an African American male, mostly healthy except for allergies, and he has been with both Caucasian and African American escorts..
2. What are the transmission rates for an HIV+ female to an HIV- male, if they are having unprotected vaginal and anal sex?
3. What are the transmission rates for a female of unknown HIV status to an HIV- male, if they are having unprotected vaginal and anal sex?
4. Are there any HIV tests that would give me a good indication of my status, or a baseline, at this point, two weeks post potential exposure?
Thank you in advance for helping me to answer these questions..