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[Jp911985]

I went to a massage parlor and had sex. She put on a condom, I finished in the condom.  But when I pull out the condom slip off. She told me it was okay that I came in the condom. But I'm nervous if I got hiv! Please help!

[GuitarRox]

Bummer about the condom coming off.  This happens though.  You are right that her usual habits should make you less worried.  She doesn't want HIV either so sounds like a faithful condom user and likely tests to make sure she is clean.  That means she probably does NOT Have HIV so you couldn't get it from her.  As to the risk, do you think your  head was covered?  As long as it was, you were protected.  You could always round about the massage parlor and ask about her most recent tests.  But it doesn't sound like you had a risk as the condom was retrieved with semen (so different than a condom break) and the head of your penis was covered.  

[AnxiousNoMore]

He said "She also was holding the condom in place while we were doing it making sure it doesn't slip off." and the head was protected, so there is nothing to worry about. You are safe from HIV and need to move on because you can't get HIV using a condom properly and you did that. Your fears are unwarranted - what you did is like flying on an airplane and it landed safely and you walked into the airport afterwards then thinking afterwards that would have been dangerous if it didn't land.

[Jp911985]

Yeah her making sure the condom condom stays in place is telling me she's protecting herself. The condom was covering the head, it came off when I pull out. She even show me the condom and I could see my seman in it. My heart just dropped when I saw this. It was a stupid thing to do and I'll never do it again.  Just a lot things running through my mind

[GuitarRox]

Thanks for clarifying for me Jp911985.  Then you do not need to worry.  The condom protected you!  You had safe sex and should let this go.  Don't repeat if it makes you too anxious.

[Jp911985]

Thanks for the advice and help . I'm not doing again cause it does make me anxious. I'm planning on getting tested to make sure and so I could have a piece of mind. I think this was a sign of telling me to stop or it could happen again. Every time I go over there I always leave guilty and then checking if I have any swollen lymphs, I need to stop going for good. I always always use protection and that place does too.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Testing is a waste of time because you didn't have an exposure. You can get E Coli after any meal, but you never even test for that, or cancer at any time too. So there is no reason to waste your tie testing for something you can't have.

[Jp911985]

Thank you for telling me to relax and the advice again. She wasn't freaking out like I was, she was way more calmer than me. That tells me that she protects safe sex and I hope she gets tested.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Only the head needs protection, so when you slipped off was the condom hanging from her vagina or did the head come out of the condom while in her and it touched her vagina? Also if she always uses a condom then she is likely negative otherwise why would she pay for condoms?

[Jp911985]

The condom was in her vagina, I took my penis out slowly so I wont silp out of the condom.  She took the condom out and my seman was in the condom. I did a stupid thing.  I hope I didn't catch anything.  This is the first time it happened to me

[Jp911985]

She also was holding the condom in place while we were doing it making sure it doesn't slip off. So she clearly use protection all the time.  I'm just very very nervous and scared