You would have known if the condom broke. If the condom DIDN'T break you had protected sex and was never at any risk getting HIV.
what if there was a slight tear? I've read that the only way to truly know is to put water in it after to see if there's leakage which obviously was not done..
I never heard of a slight tear. If condoms break, they really break and you won't have any doubt. But if you still have any doubts go and get tested after 6 weeks and then again to be conclusive after 12 weeks. But I'll bet it will be negative.
But from my point of view you were never at risk.
your answer was not convincing, it had so many (but´s) even that he had protected sex
so are these symptoms consistent with HIV? Unfortunately I have to wait a month or two before being tested but it's killing me right now in terms of wanting to find out immediately.
Ok, let me put it this way: I have never ever heard of a broken condom that didn't tear apart so much that there was absolutely NO doubt it was broken. From my point of view you had protected sex and do not need any testing.
Besides that you can't diagnose HIV from symptoms. You're symptoms could be due to anything.
You didn't have a risk and had you had a condom failure you would have known.