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HIV Transmission through Body to body massage

So I decided to go for a Thai massage and to my knowledge during the massage I was aroused and had an erection. The masseuse whispered that she can provide a special, being caught up in the moment I queried the gesture. We were both naked and she was rubbing herself and her vagina on me, during the moment I do not recall any penetration of any sort but just rubbing of genitalia, I was aroused very quickly and ejaculated. I did not touch her during the moment and cannot recall penetrating but a rub that highly aroused me. Am I prone to HIV during this act with a masseuse as this was my first time and surely probably not hers, no condoms were used as I was told that I could touch and look only whilst she massaged.
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Hiv is really transmitted in specific ways. The only risks for HIV are to have unprotected vaginal or anal sex or sharing IV drug needles to inject drugs. Nothing else including what you describe are risks. Air inactivates the virus. Her rubbing herself and her vagina on you will not transmit the virus. no risk
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So for clarity, even though her vagina(not even sure if I felt vaginal fluid because of the moment) was rubbing on my shaft or entire penis this still does not constitute penetration sex rite? Just a weird case of events and with it comes anxiety based questions and crappy feelings in my body after the event.
The advice was crystal clear because I'm sure you know there is only one meaning for the words "penetration" and "only".    
Thank you and noted.
hiv is dead in air, so the penetration is the key for transmission. See below in case it helps.

Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (body, vagina, maybe cuts,  maybe blood etc. ). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Note that 2 of them require a penis and the third requires a hollow injecting shared needle - there are no OTHER ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
Hiv is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either.  You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
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