Oral sex does not transmit hiv. You used protection and it did not fail. You did not have an exposure to hiv. Im guessing guilt of cheating on your wife, and a first homosexual experience has now got the best of you. There is no need for HIV testing, but their is a need for you to be honest eith your wife, if you want to get over this fear and anxiety.
Yes, guilt is a factor here. It was a huge mistake and I am feeling the backlash of my foolishness and indiscretion. I appreciate your response and anxiety is clouding my logic.
Honestly, reading info on the internet will scare you to death. There is so much conflicting information especially regarding HIV and oral. If there are close to 2 million people in the US with HIV and over 300 million in the population, that's less than 1%. I guess the chances of someone actually being HIV+ are small to begin with, but the media and the internet make it seem much bigger.
I don't have any idea where you received your information but there is only 1.2 million people in the US living with HIV.
I did say close to 2 million, but I have no idea if that is accurate. Can you educate me? I'd like to know more.
About this forum.
If you believe you have been exposed to HIV and want help to judge your risk, would like advice about HIV testing, or have questions about the effectiveness of condoms or risks associated with specific sexual practices, this is the site for you.
I'm sorry...I misread your note. 1.2 million...got it.
It's very useful and very informative and you people are doing a great service. Thank you for that.
I've read through hundreds of posts. I don't feel I am at any risk, buy I just have to get past my anxiety to fully believe it. It's amazing how many people I see completely obsessing and I get it. I have some OCD tendencies myself.
I have an appt. with a psychiatrist to help work out this issue and my recent dive into self destructive behavior.
So, bottom line...put this episode behind me, learn from my mistakes, get the help I may need, but no need for testing?
Also...after doing so much reading and not seeing a clear answer...what are the facts about transmission through oral sex?
No incident HIV infections among MSM who practice exclusively oral sex.
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Studies which show the fallacy of relying on anecdotal evidence as opposed to carefully controlled study insofar as HIV transmission risk is concerned:
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There is no debate (among experts) about the HIV risks associated with oral sex. The risk is so low that almost nobody who cares for HIV infected patients has ever had a patient believed to have been infected that way. Among experts, it's a semantic issue about using terms like "no risk" and "very low risk". There is no difference between my or Dr. Hook's use of "low risk" and other experts' "no risk".
"And oral sex is basically safe sex -- completely safe with respect to HIV and although not zero risk for other STDs, the chance of infection is far lower than for unprotected vaginal or anal sex. Please educate yourself about the real risks. If you stick with oral sex and condom-protected vaginal or anal sex, you have no HIV worries and very little worry about other STDs. " DR HANSFIELD
"I am sure you can find lots of people who believe that HIV is transmitted by oral sex, but you will not find scientific data to support this unrealistic concern..." DR HOOK
"HIV is not spread by touching, masturbation, oral sex or condom protected sex."- DR. HOOK
in the public HIV Prevention forum of MedHelp, TEAK and the other moderators maintain that oral sex in all forms is a zero risk activity. Would you agree with this assessment?
I TOTALLY AGREE / DR GARCIA
"HIV is not spread by masturbation, through oral sex, through kissing or other casual contact." Dr. Hook
"The observation on thousands and thousands of observations is that HIV is not spread by oral sex (of any sort)." DR HOOK
"I would not say your risk ,if he had HIV is "slim to none"- that's too high. I would say they are effectively zero. How much of his ejaculate or other genital secretions you may have swallowed makes no difference. EWH "
"As far as HIV is concerned, there is no known risk of getting HIV from performing oral sex on an infected partner, even if that person's genital secretions get into your eyes or if you swallow." Dr.Hook
HIV is not spread by oral sex, giving or receiving, even if sores, gum disease or blood is present
The fact is that there are no cases in which HIV has been proven to be transmitted by oral sex, including fellatio.. EWH
The internet can be a wonferful sorce of information. It can also be filled eith uneducated guesses, incorrect proposed dsta and just plain wrong information. You have to be careful of what you read on the net. A lot of therories are out there in terms of HIV, but half the time you will find information that is not even cited from a creditable sorce. What teak posted abouve comes from the cdc as well as the drs in the professional forum on this site with YEARS of experience in HIV and other stds. Please dont go looking for symptoms of HIV. You will find them and convince yourself you are having symptoms. Trust me. Ive been down that road. Ive had : fever, fatigue, night sweats, white spots in mouth, what I considered enlarged lymph nodes, what looked like a rash. Etc. I was convinced it was all HIV, and I had a VERY high risk exposure. I stuck myself with a needle at work eith a confirmed HIV positve patient. Anxiety got the best of me. And guess what? I recently had a six month post exposure HIV test.. Negative. You will be fine.
Thanks so much.
That's scary...are you a doctor or RN? I'm glad you're ok. So, you don't think I even need to test? I figured I'd ask my psychiatrist on Thurs. since she is an MD/DO.
I do wonder if the responders on this site are qualified, or just knowledgeable, helpful folks? Believe me, I'm grateful for any support and information.
The CDC info states that oral is not risk free.
"numerous studies have demonstrated that oral sex can result in the transmission of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)."
I would imagine no one wants to commit to saying risk free?