First things first, you've had a risk. However, these risk are generally low for first time encounters. The average risk for a male to female exposure is 1 in 1000. The fact that the man didn't ejaculate further reduces that risk. Also, assuming this guy was about your age, heterosexual, and not an IV drug user, the chances that he had HIV are pretty low
Disregard you symptoms though. I know it's easy to jump to conclusions about symptoms etc - trust me, I've been there - but the fact of the matter is there's a million other things that could cause these symptoms.
Still, a risk is a risk, so test at 6-8 weeks and then at 12 weeks to confirm.
Try not to worry too much until then. The numbers are way in your favor.