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Hiv from rubbing with fluids

Dear all, last night I had a 5-min rubbing with a CSW in Dubai while she had fluids. In addition we had deep French kissing and fingering. She wanted me to have unprotected intercourse close she 'liked me' but I refused. I have ulcerative colitis since 9 years and uncircumsized. What are my chances of HIV and other STDs. Panicking.
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what exactly do you mean by rubbing with fluids? rubbing your penis on her? vagina i assume? or did she rub your penis with her vaginal fluids? please include a little more into so we can answer correct.
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Hi . What I meant that she was on top of me and kept on rubbing her vagina on my penis. Her vagina was wet all the time.
You had no risk so an HIV test would be a waste of time.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
You did have a huge risk for a cold or sore throat though, because she kisses everyone in town so I wouldn't do that again.
Thanks a lot.. you know panicking was at its peak. I appreciate it and will try to refrain from any sexual encounter since I am married and love my family. God bless you
i know you've been answered, i just want to follow up since I originally asked for more detail, even though all things I asked were actually zero risk as well. but, I'd always like to hear the full story. you have zero risk.  if you love your family, think about them before you do anything that can hurt them. I'm not judging, I've been in the same position, but when you think you've contracted HIV and you see yourself throwing it all away, would it have been worth it? I actually came here for the same reason,due to my guilt, but it taught me some hard lessons.
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