Did Iput my wife at danger?

[Timokr]

I am married man and recently made the biggest mistake. I went to a party and after drinking got involved with an unknown girl. It ended up that I fingered her. I forgot that I had a cut from a coka cola can on one finger that I was using and only remembered when the cut started to heavily burn because it was deep inside the vagina coming in contact with her vaginal fluid.
At first I didn’t worry but I continued to have unprotected sex with my wife and know she has ars symptoms. Feever and sore throat.
Can I still get something like pep for her?

[Sara_MHModerator]

Your question has been fully and accurately answered that this is not a risk for HIV>

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[mike_no]

You were advised that you don't have any risk from this incident. There has not been a single recorded case of individual getting infected in this fashion. There are 37 million people living with the virus across the globe. You will not be the peculiar one.

38.5 is not ARS fever, if she had ARS fever, she would have been most likely recuperating in an ER and you would have been hitting bricks already trying to explain how you gave her the virus. You don't have HIV neither does she have it unless there are any separate incidents that you haven't told us.

Not accepting the advice and implying your own logic to create a hysteria of HIV is not going to help you, it seems you have some underlying emotion that you need to fuse off, you are doing that by passively grieving about a fictitious scenario of HIV infection. See a therapist for proper arrangement of thought. Figure out what is causing this reaction, is it guilt of cheating or something else.

Quit reading about HIV and ARS online to avoid misinterpreting information furthermore, it will only bring your self unnecessary sorrow and irrational fears.

We can't help you any more, this is an HIV prevention forum and we have already established that you can't acquire HIV from the incident. Thus, you can't transmit it your spouse. Please take your "What-if" questions or anxiety driven issues to the anxiety forum.

[Timokr]

Can anyone tell me precisely the characteristics of the ars fever? It it low fever like 38 or really high one like 39-40 degrees?

[AnxiousNoMore]

You ignored all the information given so far, so not sure why you are asking for more since you have effectively told everyone here that you know better and are telling us that you can get hiv from what you did. Your thinking is not logical, so talk this over with your doctor.

[AnxiousNoMore]

You ignored all the information given so far, so not sure why you are asking for more since you have effectively told everyone here that you know better and are telling us that you can get hiv from what you did.

[Timokr]

Its not a sore throat. Its 38.5 degree fever since two days. Thats the typical ars symptoms

[AnxiousNoMore]

People cough on her lips and door knobs so sore throat is to be expected at any time by the billions of people like her who are negative for hiv.  You should stop pretending that you are a doctor and pretending that you diagnosed her sore throat as Ars. You don't have any medical training, so it is unrealistic for you to have so much confidence in your ability to diagnose - especially when you are diagnosing a disease you can't have. You are focusing on hiv because it is the only disease you googled - maybe if you google throat cancer you will think she has that too.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Fever, sore throat etc. You aren't a doctor o it is unrealistic for you to have so much confidence in your ability to diagnose.

[Timokr]

However, what about my wife s ars feever?  She has 38.5 degrees for two days already. Extremely worried

[AnxiousNoMore]

This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
People cough on her lips and door knobs so sore throat is to be expected at any time by the billions of people like her who are negative for hiv.  You should stop pretending that you are a doctor and pretending that you diagnosed her sore throat as Ars. You don't have any medical training, so it is unrealistic for you to have so much confidence in your ability to diagnose - especially when you are diagnosing a disease you can't have. You are focusing on hiv because it is the only disease you googled - maybe if you google throat cancer you will think she has that too.

[GuitarRox]

You were already answered that fingering is not a risk.  Move on, you won't get HIV that way.  Just don't have unprotected vaginal or anal sex or share IV drug needles and you won't get HIV.

[Timokr]

Please help am dying of fear and need to know how high the risk was. My wife is developing ars feever and thinks its a flue

[Timokr]

But wound was quiet deep and burning as if something entered the bloodstream

[Timokr]

How is that sure. The wound was deep and burning after coming into contact with vaginal fluid. The burning implies that something entered the bloodstream

[diver58]

Unless it is profusely bleeding, there is no possibility. And in case of profusely bleeding finger, you would prefer to be in the Emergency Room of a clinic instead of having fun. Chances in that case also not very significant.

[diver58]

You were never at any risk of HIV from the situation you described.