The only ways HIV is spread are:
-Unprotected anal/vaginal penetrations.
-Sharing needles to inject drugs.
-Mother to child.
Once outside the body, the virus is unable to infect. Saliva contains at least 12 substances that inactivate the virus.
Oral sex does not expose you to HIV, but it does expose you to several other STDs. Check our STD forum for more info.
All the best.
This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead. For your situation, it can't burrow into your skin like a worm either.
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis. Only the head needs to be covered, so if that happened it is protected and there is zero risk
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis. Only the head needs to be covered, so if that happened it is protected and there is zero risk.
3. sharing hollow needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. This HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk. Because of all the research statistics, doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about an unscientific hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
You are clearly misunderstanding the information provided to you.
DragonPulse has stated mother to child as a risk, in such cases the higher probability of transmission happens during child birth or labour.
The risk through breastfeeding is relatively lesser, in such cases, HIV transmission essentially happens due to the presence of virus in breast milk getting through contact with under-developed mucosal lining in infants.
You are an adult with no aforementioned deficiency. Hence, you weren't at risk.
It's imperative that you accept the help offered to you already to forget about this incident. Should you are unable to accept your situation and feel anxious, you must see a counselor to seek help.
You don't have a concern that belong here, you were never exposed.