Very very very scared about HIV exposure

[freakeddobr]

I had broken condom with very high risk individual incident and I am scared out of my mind for the past 16-17 days since then ,I tested with DUO lab test at 13 days ,but I know it is too early for any peace of mind ,how much faith I can put in this test ,the lab where I made it said it can detect infection after 2 weeks ?

[Sara_MHModerator]

We are very sorry you are so anxious.  Our members have expressed to you that testing is accurate at 28 days.  There is nothing we can add other than the message our members have tried to convey to you which is that a one tie episode is low risk.  We wish you the best and please continue to work with your doctor.

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[freakeddobr]

Guys ,I want to share with you ,that my anxiety is still super high ,I went to my doctor yesterday to tell her about this and she tested with me with 4th generation rapid test ,it was Alere I saw it and it was negative ,22 days after exposure, she told me to do it again after 1 week ,I live in Denmark and they say here it is conclusive after 1 month. I read this tests cannot pick infection like lab test ? Also want to ask you how reliable this is ? Can I relax a bit ? My life is mess ,I failed my exams ,hopefully I will go through this somehow. Thank you

[freakeddobr]

Guys ,I want to tell you ,that I was super anxious and today went to get rapid test ,it was Insti test and it was negative 20 days after exposure ,I know I have to keep it calm and will try and this test was unnecessary ,I want to ask you ,because I dont think I will be able to get lab Duo test at 28 days ,should I take a rapid duo test at 28 days or I should wait and get test at 6 weeks ,I ask because I read that the rapid Duo test is not accurate as lab test and should do it after 6 weeks ?

[freakeddobr]

Any advice will be appreciated ?

[mike_no]

Rapid duo test can be done at 28 days. Ideally, you should back that up with a final one at 6 weeks. It is an accurate test.

[CurfewX]

Whatever will make YOU feel like it's conclusive so that you can move on from this event.  It's 98%+ conclusive at 28 days, which combined with the extreme unlikelihood that your partner has HIV, and the extreme unlikelihood that you got HIV from a one-time encounter, would be enough for most people to have peace of mind that they did not get HIV.  If you would not be able to accept that, test at 6 weeks instead.  No one else can make this choice for you.

[freakeddobr]

I am back ,my anxiety is super high ,can barely go through the day ,I will go for test tomorrow and I don't know what to think ,this is the only place where I can share about this.

[AnxiousNoMore]

You need to reread everything because you are so anxious that you are just skipping the important parts because you are fixated on your own theory that no one here believes.
You will be very afraid from the moment you do your placebo test until you get the result, then after the result you will know that the early test proves nothing so you will get anxious again. You will get NO relief when you test early.  See your doc or a therapist, because this is an hiv prevention forum and you haven't listened to any of the advice because you keep telling everyone that you know better (example:`..I fear the worst ,she was very high risk ..`) and no one here can provide the common sense one on one discussion that you need.

[freakeddobr]

Thanks man ,I am so worried ,maybe have to take some calming pills ,I dont know what I was thinking doing this.

[freakeddobr]

Ok guys thanks for the encouraging words ,will try to get some sleep. I really appreciate your help , can't tell anyone  else for this.

[AnxiousNoMore]

`..I fear the worst ,she was very high risk ..`That is incorrect and you have no reason to think that. She knows she can not get hiv because normally the condom does not break so that is why she uses it, and you need to accept that too.
You are fixating on your fears instead of accepting the reality that she is likely negative. And accept GR advice that is is silly to test early.

[GuitarRox]

Having a single exposure (such as a condom break during anal sex) is extremely low risk.  It is less than 2 percent.  Plus, the CSW uses condoms meaning she generally protects herself making it unlikely she had HIV. So, keep that in mind. Don't waste your time and money testing next week.  Wait until 28 days. But I would guess you will be negative.  Try not to worry.

[freakeddobr]

Thanks ,but I fear the worst ,she was very high risk , hope God will help me through this.

[GuitarRox]

Test at 28 days but I would not over worry.   Chance at all is very close to nothing and this is highly unlikely.  Test to be sure but expect a negative result.

[freakeddobr]

If I test next week with 4th generation Rapid test ,it will be 3 weeks after incident ,how reliable it will be ?

[GuitarRox]

I already answered your question that it is silly to keep testing early.  Test at 28 days so you can be done with it.  Testing early is a good sign if you are negative but you know you wont' stop there and just do another test a week later.  So, WAIT.  Be patient.  You don't have much of a risk and I wouldn't worry.  But since you are, stay busy for the next couple weeks and schedule a test at 28 days.  My answer isn't going to change on that.

[mike_no]

What exactly was you exposure?

[AnxiousNoMore]

Were you with a sex worker and who supplied the condom?

[freakeddobr]

Yes I was ,it was insertive anal ,condom broke ,I was maximum one minute and a half two inside her before realize condom broke. I am super worried honestly , cant eat ,cant sleep ,dont know what will happen with me ,scared out of my mind ,cant even tell to anyone about this.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Were you with a sex worker and who supplied the condom?

[AnxiousNoMore]

I see you meant you were with a sex worker. I should have asked just this, who supplied the condom?

[freakeddobr]

She supplied it, if it matters.

[AnxiousNoMore]

You can't get hiv when you use a condom that doesn't break so she is likely negative because they don't break often. She pays for the condoms solely to protect herself so why would she pay money for them if she was positive? You should test with a duo at 28 days or later, but I wouldn't even bother thinking about this event while waiting, because it is very unlikely that she is positive. So I would just relax and go about my normal life until 28 - and definitely don't waste any time testing early any more for this likely non-event.
She probably tests regularly to make sure there is a purpose in spending all that money on condoms.

[mike_no]

Duo = P24Ag + Antibody

Only the p24 antigen part of the test was viable at that point.

A negative is encouraging. If you were infected, in all probabilities that part of the test would have tested positive at that juncture.

Since, antibody test is considered for diagnostic purpose, you need to re-test at 28 days with a duo to rule out HIV infection, at that point your result will be at about 95% accuracy. At 6 weeks, you can test with any standard antibody test for a 100% conclusive.

[freakeddobr]

Thank you for the answer ,I never been so scared in my life ,have panic attacks all the time ,cant sleep , I am thinking to go next week and do rapid 4th generation test ,it will be 3 weeks after the incident , I am very scared to do it ,but it is the only way to relax a bit.

[freakeddobr]

Do you think it is worth to do this test Mike ?